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Has anyone faced this confusion? I friend of mine recently told me I don't have faith. I said what - of course I have faith I have a strong belief in my higher power. Then I realized he a is right. I have a strong belief that a HP exists - that is is all loving, all knowing and wonderful. I belief in the after life and everything good, but I don't have faith - that around every corner is good, that life is good and that my life will be OK. I don't know when I lost my faith. I used to have it? I had it when my dad died and I went through a divorce? Yet, now, afte rmy boyfriend of 2+ years left me and is in an alcoholic down spiral - I have lost my faith! So how can I let go and let god if I don't have faith???? I know I did have faith and I am trying to go back in my life to see when and where I lost it??? I really thought I did have faith, bu then a friend spoke to me about her faith and how she loves life and believes there is good and exciting things around every corner. That is when I realized - I don't feel that way - and why?
Has anyone else struggled with this? I really thought I had a very strong faith! How can one believe as I do but don't have faith???
Yes I struggle with faith, I understand all too well what you are talking about.
From a very young age I have had faith, it has seen me through many, many a heartache, loss of jobs, the death of both parents to cancer, an addicted son, another son living with autism.
Tough stuff, but I won't give up, I read my Bible, pray and attend church regularly. I tell people that after you have gone through trials and loss you will not look at God the same way you did before, and in some ways I think it is a more deep faith even though some may judge me that I have less faith.
We are in good company, Moses, Elijah, Job, David all had crises of faith, praying to die or asking God "Where are you?"
I may not have the same expectations as I once had, I still refuse to give up on faith.
It is not as a child that I believe and confess Jesus Christ. My hosanna is born of a furnance of doubt.
Aloha Jasobel...One aha moment coming up!! Be quiet, be still. HP does HP's part and faith for me is in the expectation of the contact. If you try too hard you might miss it. Once you get it you'll never doubt again. An early sponsor working with me on the practice of meditation discussed with me that meditation was the sustained focus on a spiritual truth and then sent me on my way to find my spiritual truth to meditate on. He led me to believe that meditation could be done on a 24/7 time frame if the truth was simple. So for two weeks I looked for "truths" to meditate on and being a former theology student I was all over the place with deep and complicated stuff until I arrived at the meditation practice I do today 24/7. My sponsor asked and I told him what it was that I had discovered; "God is". Hold on to that meditation 24/7 for the next week or so and see if discover when your faith comes back home.
ahh ((((Jerry))) I love that - a 24/7 meditation for god is - thats profound thank you.
Faith is not something you have - it is something u do, it takes practising. Our program, our lives, being in the Now and working your program and being in constant contact with god - surrendering to the moment, right here right now, this is reality. You can surrender whatever u want to HP/god will take it. None of us knows what is the future, u can project that about ur A or you - it is a fantasy - reality is right now - what can you do to feel better right now/today?
Love you like you are your new favorite best friend and be kind and gentle. Forgive you for what u need to and learn to detach with love from others. Focus on you and determine your true needs vs wants/fantasies. If I knew the probelm with me, was that I didnt love myself - and all I had to do was love me in the action, verb sort of way - honor myself emtoionally and be true to me and stand up for me and love me - bc no one else was doing it for me.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
