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Where do I begin? It has been hectic past couple of weeks and not being able to get here hasn't helped. The first trauma/drama was husband having chest pains and being admitted to the hospital and getting a 2nd stint put in his heart. He had a blockage of over 93% in his artery. They said it was so close that he could have dropped dead of a heart attack in a couple of days. But he is recovery from that nicely right now. He is actually back to work. Then my son decided to come clean and admit that he has a addiction to oxycontin and has had for about 2 years. We have known there was a problem but couldn't put our fingers on it. Red eyes blamed on allergies and lathargic being blamed for insomnia. Knowing all along he was high, we just thought it was weed. And sometimes I have no doubt it was but more times I think it was the oxy's. He is asking us for help but feeling like rehab is for weak people. I have told him rehab is for strong people who have asked for help and are getting it to learn tools to deal with their addictions. Does that mean anything to him, I don't know right now? He says he is trying to kick it on his own, God bless him for trying. His father is an alcoholic who admits to it and refuses to get help. Knowing he needs it to deal with his addiction. The rehab search is on and the willingness to go is there. I pray he is able to stay off of them before we get him to rehab. I at first thought I would leave the work up to him to find a rehab place but then I felt like he is asking for help and I have no reason to believe otherwise. We have given him no cash but he did receive money for his birthday and some gift cards so I am sure he can barter his way into some pills if he really wanted them. The depth of the pain I feel is unbelievable. I am in disbelief most of the time that I am able to get up out of the bed and face each day. I love this child so much and had hoped for a better life than this for him. Let me stop this pita party there is no need for that. Being strong and willing to listen to him is what is needed right now. Any ESH would be appreciated.
((((Wild)))) The name of the addition might be different and the consequence to the addict and family is the same. The best tool I have found to keep me in one piece mind, body, spirit and emotions is still the program. Keep turning him over and step back from between him and HP. ((((hugs))))
wildthang86 - Prayers for you, your hubbie and your son. I can totally relate to what you are feeling - my son has also been bitten by the addiction bug. I could go on and on and on, but what's been the absolute best medicine for me MIP, meetings here and F2F meetings.
I've also done some reaching out in my area looking for other parents with children addicts. While I relate on all levels to most in alanon, there is, for me, a new set of emotions and helplessness when it's one you gave birth to.
Keep coming back and know we're all here! Try to do something for you each day...in spite of all that is going on around you.
(((((Hugs))))) and a hopeful speedy recovery for your hubbie from his surgery.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Folks here have a lot of knowledge relating to addiction and it's effects on loved ones. Please stop by when things are going badly and share with us. Just being here strengthens me when I am down. The Serenity prayer has been a godsend, as well.
oxycontin addiction is a very difficult one to kick. i posted something a while back about my buddy Freddie. He had a lot of problems but oxycontin was his drug of choice as they say. But he did manage to break free of it. So, there is hope. The first step is admitting you have the problem. after that, the thing for him to do is get some help for that. NA would be a good spot for him. by NA I mean narcotics anonymous. meanwhile, you stick with us and we'll get you through the rough spots ahead. lots of love to ya.
Oxy is nasty stuff. My ex-wife who has never been addicted to anything, not even caffeine, got hooked on it a few years back after having major surgery. It took her months to kick it and she was trying every step of the way. I don't know what I'd do if I had surgery and had to take some kind of heavy pain meds. I've seen a lot of sober As go back out on account of pain meds.
