The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
"... its okay to have balance in the process and there is no way to surgically remove emotions and thoughts unless you consider a frontal lobotomy."
Thank you Jerry. These are precisely the words I have wanted to hear spoken on this forum. I have always felt it is AlAnon's way or the highway. Thanks for letting me know it is all right to use my own mind in this struggle. Balance: that's the ticket!!!
Best wishes, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I read this quote in the original text and got a chuckle! It was so 'right on' for my thinking at times, that it just made me chuckle.
Starting my day in the usual way + an added chuckle is PRICELESS!
I too thank you Jerry!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks from me too, Jerry. You cannot switch off thoughts and emotions. Although my AH continues to break my heart by his actions and refusal to contemplate giving up the evil A - I struggle to maintain the moral high ground because I know I am far from perfect!
My life and that of my son, has been made a nightmare by his drinking. BUT - somehwere in the back of my mind is the niggle - did I deserve this? I am no naive teenager - I am 60 yrs old - so should I somehow be wiser and know all the right things to do/say and how to behave. I think I fall short of this!!
So permission to have my own feelings and emotions helps enormously. Thank you Jerry.
