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For those who have been following my sordid tale---I went to the lawyer and filed for divorce today. I feel really good about the decision. I feel some peace knowing I'll never have to hope for help from my A, never have to count on him for anything again. I've completely given up all hope for him. Clearly, I've got a rough road ahead of me but I've been the sole caregiver to my 3 and 1 year old for several months now anyway.
I hadn't heard from him all weekend---I wanted to discuss the fact that I was seeing the attorney today over the weekend and everytime I called he said "I'll call you back" and never did. So late this afternoon he called and said he wants to come home----I never wavered---I told him you cannot come home and I've filed for divorce. Of course, he's so sorry--blah, blah, blah. Not a chance. I've heard it all before and it never changes and it certainly never will. For some reason I now know that for sure. That's not to say that I didn't wish for more for him and our family and I tried my best to keep us together. It's just not meant to be.
Please pray for my children because their father is so unwell and he is not able to be there for them the way a daddy should be and I am heartbroken over that fact.
(((((((((((((((mom & children))))))))))) you are in my heart and prayers may you remain strong and focused on you, Hopefully a program and your A will meet and he can become the daddy he needs to be god bless and good job taking care of you and the kids
You are taking care of you and your children and doing what is right for you. I am glad you have found some peace. Keep coming here and posting and receiving support and love.
Mom to 2, I know it's hard on you right now. But you are stong, you are standing up for you and your dear children, and that is the right thing to do. You have made a decision, and you are sticking with it. You deserve peace and serenity. Go get it!! BRAVA girl!!
With great caring, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I thought it was the end of the world when my husband moved out. But the universe just opened up for me with love and support. I just know that will happen for you and your children. In fact, the support and help came in the most unexpected ways.
good luck mom of 2. if it is any consolation i do know how you feel right now. be strong for yourself and your children. there are brighter days ahead you have just run into a little snag. what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. we are all here for you. you go girl........
I will pray for you and you children and you husband. I so hate this disease! Proud of you for doing things to take care of you and your children. Keep coming for support and growth.
You are in my thoughts and prayers today. Thank your HP for your strength. I'm proud of you.
Your A can become the father your children deserve if he chooses at some point. Remove yourself from his responsibility here, and turn it over to your HP. Then just be the best mother you can be. You've already removed them from an alcoholic home, and that's so good.
Thank you, thank you. When I feel a little sad I will just read all the posts. I know I made the right decision, but as you all know it's still heartbreaking and difficult. I will be the best mom I can and love them every second. I am so lucky in so many ways and I know that.
It is tuff road just went down it but take a deep breathe and remember no beating yourself up and keep in meetings and posting. and ask for hlep when you need a break from the kids and i ma praying for you
