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My A is in recovery, or so he says, I am having trouble believing him. He finished a 30 day rehab and is home now. He has had 2 relapses and the contract was that he will have to find another place to live if it happens again. He was open about the relapses he had, but now I think he will hid any further relapses since he is out of chances.
I am pretty sure he was drinking the other night because I smelled the alcohol the next day on him. I didn't confront him since I was not absolutly sure, and I am having a hard time letting this be his recovery and not mine. I am really trying to stay out of it, but am not exactly sure if I should bring it up, since I don't want him to think he is putting one over on us again or I should just let it go.
(((((((((maka)))))) I can relate my hubby did a 10 day inpatient program and was sober 2 months then relapsed, has probation hanging over head if he fails his testing he goes to jail this time, it is hard. His problem not mine you can ask that is fine but now I only as once even if it may be a lie, then I let it go that way I am loving him to me in a way by caring enough to ask but then letting it go. He has choices and I cant make them only he can and only he will have to suffer for them. Even though are kids and finances also suffer, that can be fixed in time. I have understanding in a relapse, only because working any program is hard, mine is at times it is a ODAT program. I have changed my thinking One day sober I am proud, if one day he is not I may encourage and support the faulter with love, but insure him his actions may need more thought. that is all I have is today, and he is not getting over on you and he really deep down does not think he is, he knows in his heart you know, it is the awful disease that thinks it is getting over on us. God bless you and your family and keep working your program because you are worth it and it is the one thing, we all can do for ourselves. LOve ya take care, cloud
You may not be sure if he's drinking right now--but eventually you will know for sure. It will always get out of control for them again. Hang in there, the truth will always win.
