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bioteach


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my daughter is in recovery and has found peace ...  my struggle for acceptwnce and giving all of my control to GOD STILL is an issue ....  please give me insight on how to find peace...

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miss lucy


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hi....welcome to the best source of comfort and support you will find to get you through this.  like yourself i am reasonably new here.  i am not in a postition to get to one to one meetings but am really learning a lot here on this site and progressing well with my own recovery from being married to an A.

As you read through the posts and information here you ,will find that no one offers advice but we support each other by sharing our own experiences.  the medical staff who deal with this awful condition on a daily basis are amazing....they are super trained.....but they all have one thing most of us struggle to achieve - DETATCHMENT!  they are not emotionally involved with the patient.  as carers we have to be able to accept that no matter what we do,,,no matter what we say....no matter how much love and devotion we show....we are POWERLESS against this disease....the bottle will win every time unless the person with it in their hand wants to get better and beat it!  i hope you can come to a point that you find your peace - look after you and let HP take care of the rest.  in time you will find your own coping mechanism and the guilt, frustration and feelings of inaptitude will lessen once you start LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF!

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gilly

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Debilyn


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This is a message board. It does not mean anyone can answer you right away. I invite you to go into the chat room.

love and welcome,debilyn

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Jerry F


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Bio...just a reflection on your posts...If what you have done hasn't worked...don't
continue to do it.   Sit down, listen to what has worked for others, keep and open
mind with the awareness that you can take what you like and leave the rest and
what you take...practice.   smile

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Christy


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For me, recognizing that I never had control was key.  I never had it to give up!
If we had control, none of us would be here.

Christy

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