The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
so acceptant of God and his palns for her and I am so so distrustful, praranoid ... not so much of her .... but my lack of control in most of life's problems ...... where do I turn .. what do I do>???
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They may not remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.
Alanon is a program that helps us work on ourselves and the affects of the disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a family disease, and alanon helps us work on our own issues that may be caused by alcohol consumption by those we love.
I'm fairly new, but can share what's been told to me.
- Find a face-to-face (F2F) meeting of Alanon in your area. They will welcome you with open arms and share their experience, strength and hope (ESH).
- Focus on the here and the now. We can't change the past and we can't predict the future.
- Be gentle with yourself. Love yourself and give yourself a break.
Many with more experience here - I'm certain they will have bunches more to add. Know that you are not alone.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Aloha Bioteach...thanks for showing up so that we can work this program together. I am standing still...staying quiet and falling back on keeping a quiet inside and outside. How? Trusting the program and the process and the process that contain the first three steps...summarized in I can't, God can, I'll let him. When I start to worry and feel anxious and agonize I know that I am not there. When I am in balance and quiet and calm I am. No it's not about a daughter in recovery but that doesn't have to be my problem that I let rock my world...It can be anything I have no control over. The Serenity Prayer in direct communication with my HP as a conversation rather than a pleading works well. When my faith is rising I don't need to plead...I feel confident in what I have learned including that my HP is always here no matter the reason.
I feel distrust and anxiety when I know that I haven't been able to find my own solutions alone and then I carry that over into all interventions. Actually it is about my losses not HP's. I am practicing distrust.
Where I turn is upward and then I stand still where I am at. I go into vertical alignment which I learned in the program from my early sponsors. My HP's plans for me or will for me is peace...period.
Keep coming back and check out the suggestions for face to face An-Anon meetings if that is not what you are doing currently. The rooms have the answers and the people with the experiences on how to get in the solution and out of the problem. Check into afgwso.org and find the meetings in your area and the literature and the people. Go save your mind and spirit. (((((hugs)))))
