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I went out with the girls last night for a friends birhday. We were drinking but had a really great evening. Then one off my friends who normally does not drink too much was drunk she had over done it and got upset. I took her to the toilets. She was saying lots of stuff has some resentments towards me as I have stopped rescuing and started minding my own business and she feels like I am neglecting or do not care for her. My sponsor told me some people would not like how I change. I told her it was not prsonal and that I loved her but had been in a bad place. I told her we would chat next day. She stormed out the toilet and bashed into a lady by the sinks who was very angrey. I apologised to the lady and took my friend outside. Then she ran off. Another friend brought her back and was chatting I stayed away from the drama (she was drunk no point) then she ran off. I felt guilty but I will not let peopl manipulate me anymore. All I am doing is taking care of me. Anyway my dilema. She has not rang today I know she got home o.k cause her partner rang to see if I had her bag as she had lost it. I do not feel I should ring I m very proud how I handled the hole situation. But she already feels neglected I do not know if I should just ring tomorrow and say I hope you are o.k and I am here when she is ready to talk. Finding it hard to look after me but also be their for her . we have been friends for 30 years. Her dad is a drinker and now her sister is drinking bad. she did come to al non but left I think she found it hard.
any esh would be appreciated hugs
-- Edited by Tracy on Sunday 17th of January 2010 05:18:01 PM
Wow Tracy...I want to sing the song "Memories" again. The ending to it would come out different because the memories now contain my journey in Al-Anon. I believe you did great...what I would have wanted to do if in the situation again. Actually I have done great because recently I've found my self there again with the invitation to react in the old manner and decided with what I've learned in program, "Don't React" "When in doubt don't" and "Let go and let god" along with others. You didn't pick up the script so that you'd stay in the drama...Good for Tracy.
My imagination lets me see how crazy it got and can get again when I decide to not practice the program in this affair but to do the same old thing over again expecting different results.
