The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Just recently a new guy started where I work. I have no romantic interest in him. I sometimes travel to work to and from with him. What I'm seeing these days is that my alcoholic radar is up there. One sure sign for me is someone who is too good to be true. He sails through things. He broke up a relationshp and there is no residue.
I've learned from him that he drinks daily. Today I learn that alcohol is a huge budget item.
I have my detachment these days. I reflect. I can still find myself tripping into thinking oh this guy copes very well. Of course he does he's heavily medicated.
The lines will be there for me. I can be pleasant, affable but I am through really really through with being in any way emotionally involved with an alcoholic in any way again. I know the signs now. I can't ignore them. I have to set my boundaries accordingly.
I can't wait to have my radar that in tune........Way to work the program:)
One of my gf's told me before that I have great radar for spotting drunks.......I can pick one out of a line of 100 men and fall in love with him.........
I am sooooooooooooo thankful for this program and for your ESH Maresie!
Thank you for sharing.... shellyj123
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Well falling in love is not an option for me anymore. Seeing the trees is what is key. Today he told me one of his new year's resolutions was to go the bar every day!
I know I can often be in awe of people who are not what they seem. My reflex is to presume everyone can and does have a better life than I do. I no longer see the small picture, the big picture is coming into view now.
Great awareness!!!