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Carol_Lynn


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Carol, Alanon.

I am entering a new friendship with a woman.

We are already very close and I've only known her two weeks.

My known pattern is to not have any boundaries and to not expect anyone to treat me with respect.

this woman is very open with me.  She is in recovery.  We talk about stuff.

But I am waiting for the other shoe to drop.

coming from an a household, I am NOT used to healthy friendships and don't know waht to expect or how to act.

Pass.

C.

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abbyal


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Go slow thats the only advice I can give , enjoy the friendship .  And remember you only have to do this one day at a time .  enjoy  Louise

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I am ACoA too and know all about waiting for the other shoe to drop, expecting, looking for and projecting chaos and crises.  I agree with abbyal, "go slowly and enjoy".  I know for me when I was able to get into right here, right now ~ today and not projecting my worst fears into the future - that helped tremedously.  Try to stay in this moment and enjoy it for whatever it is.

Pre-alanon I didnt know what a emotional boundary was.  It's great u are both in recovery and can talk together.  My old patterns were to rush and force relationships.  They in fact, take time to unfold naturally.  Enjoy the process.

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Carol_Lynn


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thank you :)

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Carol, I too am scared of the good stuff!  I am learning day by day that I am worth the good stuff, but it is a difficult process.  I think for me, being too scared of what happened with my last relationship is good.It reminds me what i dont want, how it was rushed before i truly knew the other person and how i felt.  Good red flags for me because I dont want to feel that way.  One day at a time is all we can live for, so one day at a time is how we have to look at relationships too.But i guess the most important thng to remember, is you are worth all the good stuff!  smile

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