For the past couple of years I could depend on my son not drinking on the weekends while his daughters were visiting. I even said recently that he never drinks when they are coming up. Well, Friday he was drunk when I brought them to my house. I made him leave and go somewhere for the night. My husband took him to a neighborhood where he used to hang out and dropped him off at a bar. He returned the next morning, not drunk but acting funny to me all day. The girls did not notice anything and were very happy but clingy to him the rest of the weekend. Even at their young ages of 7 and 9 they worry about their daddy. I did tell them the truth of why daddy had to leave as he told them he was going to a party. Wasn't that nice when he hadn't seen them for some time that he left to go to a party when they got there? I had to follw through though because I would have been a wreck the entire night. They have already been educated by their mother about daddy's sickness. I asked them if they knew what a consequence was and they both said yes. I said daddy was drinking today and he knows that if he does that when you girls come here then he has to leave. I was so impressed with how they took it (better than me). I told them that daddy loves them very much and doesn't want to leave when they are here but he just made a wrong choice to drink today.

Anyway, I have put a boundary in place for now for my peace of mind and to protect the girls from this happening again. I will no longer be bringing my granddaughters to my house to visit with my son. He will have to figure out how to see them on his own. I can visit them anytime I want at their house. I was doing this for him to hopefully keep a good relationship with them....but...I AM POWERLESS!!!! This I know for sure.