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MaryPoppins


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My daughter is sobbing, grieving terribly for her cat.  This cat was 20 years old and has been her comfort during the A's binges and rages.  This cat has dried her tears with his fur, "kissed" (licked) her tears away and stood still while she sobbed into his fur, burying her face, hiding from the angry hate filled voice.  This cat has hid with her in the corner behind the sofa, not making a sound or trying to leave, comforting her every second.  It is mind boggling the level of compassion and understanding this cat seemed to have for my daughter.

While I was trying to draw the A's horrible rages and venomous words away from my daughter, this cat was there to help me help her through it.

My daughter found him in our back yard when she was five and he was a starving abandoned kitten.  She was playing in the backyard and he came to her.  She says they found and saved each other.  It really is a beautiful story and he was a very very special cat, one in a million.  He was almost human in his ability to know what to do to comfort her.

My husband no longer drinks and my daughter is all grown up, but this cat has been like a best friend to her, she is an only child, so she is still just as close to him as when she was little and she needed his love and comfort to cope with life.

We took him to the vet today and he was so old and sick the vet said he was not going to get better, so we did the right thing and let him "go to sleep" with no pain.  My daughter was strong and held him through it, she wanted to be there for him like he had been there for her.  She was strong at the vets, but came home and is sobbing with horrible grief.  She said she feels like her heart was ripped in two.

Please pray for my daughter "TJ" during this horrible time of grief for her.  She feels like she lost her closest and dearest friend.  I can't say enough about how special this cat was and how he took care of her.  He even used to wash her socks in his water bowl every morning!  He didn't think I got them clean enough I guess.  When she was little I would set out her clothes for her to get dressed in the morning, and every morning her socks would be gone...and we would find them dunked in Cookie's water bowl with him swishing them around, LOL.  Yes, Cookie was a VERY special friend to TJ.  They slept together, and he sat on her legs while she did her homework.

I have done and said everything I can think of to help her through this, she already has health problems so I am worried about what this extra horrible grief and stress is doing to her.

I ask for your prayers for my daughter TJ to find some comfort and peace in her heart from Cookie's death, and that she open her heart to new friends, both human and furry, as a new support system.

Thanks,
MP 

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(((((((MP, TJ & Cookie))))))))

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My prayers for TJ,
I know what it's like to grieve a cat, especially a very special cat.
Cookie seems to have been a little guardian angel in a fur suit. Really extraordinary.
Please share more Cookie stories and let us know how TJ is doing.
We had a cat who always nursed our daughter when she was sick, and who was always there to comfort her when she was unhappy, but, again, Cookie was really something else.
I hope TJ knows about the Rainbow Bridge. That is what got us through when we thought our hearts would break.
Hugs,
Temple

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It is amazing how animals become part of our family....they truly become part of our family....prayers for her heart to heal....and better for the poor cat not live in pain and suffering.

With Love,
Andrea

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My sympathies are with you and your daughter. I lost my dear cat this last spring. He comforted me through two pregnancies with an active AH. Laying with me, purring on my tummy. He died this spring when my AH now has two years sober. I am pregnant with my third child now and miss him very much.

I guess my sweet angel Tigger knew I was going to be ok, now and he could go on to help someone else.

In recovery,

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Aloha MP...lessons in love come from amazing instruments of HP.  TJ is blessed
and will continue to be blessed.  I pray her sadness will be changed to celebration.

((((hugs)))) smile

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One of my cats died suddenly two years ago.  I was just thinking about him today.  My pets have seen me through a lot.

I am sending up prayers for you.

Maresie

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I completely relate. It is such a horrible thing to lose our fur family. They love us no matter what and they are more loyal than anyone.

For me filling the space helpe me. nothing can take the place.

There are so many kittens who need her arms. I hope she will allow you to bless her with one. Being needed may help her.

much love,debilyn



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MP - Prayers for you and TJ, I remember being absolutely heartbroken when we lost our 2 beautiful burmese cats. One died of a tumour and the other died 6 months later with a broken heart (they were from the same litter and always slept together and followed each other around)

There is probably nothing you or anyone else can say to help her right now - it's going to take time. But she knows you are there for her when she needs you and that is the most important thing.
(((((((((((hugs MP&TJ))))))))))

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Dear MP and TJ.

God gave us a special gift in pets and Cookie was a very special one indeed.

Once I joked to someone that I like pets and some of the people that pets like. Twenty years was a good life for you both and I wll pray that you find a new and compationate friend soon. The SPCA has friends waiting to love and care for you.

May the people in your life care for you as your kitty did.

Blessings from Bill

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Thanks so much for all of your loving, healing words to help heal my daughter's heart.

She is still grieving terribly, but we are finding comfort looking through our family pictures for all of the pictures of him to scrapbook to deal with our grief.  There are a LOT of really cute pictures, 20 years is a long time to have been blessed with such a special furry friend. It is making us smile through our tears to see these pictures again, and remember all of the good times we shared with him.

I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for your prayers, and healing words.

MP 



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