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carolinagirl · ~*Service Worker*~

My latest dilemma

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

CG when I was going to college there were programs on campus that were helpful to
single mothers. Have you asked the school if they have a study program or such
that you could use? smile

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

um here in Oregon, my friend is the head of the Community After School Program. Most schools now have this. Also many run on week ends.

You may want to check into this.

What about a boy and girls club? Or finding someone they can go to their place? I cannot be the only person who would love to do this.Or am I that much of a nutcase?

(o: Its just week ends? Do they have friends they could stay over night with?

OH High schools have a career center where you can post what you need! There are also posts of older kids looking for this kind of work.

Also colleges do this!

I hope this helps some, I know you cannot have your private jet send them ALL here, yes send me that trouble maker too! lol they do not act so bratty with someone else.....

GREAT for you going for your Masters! I am so proud of you!

hugs,debilyn

QOD · ~*Service Worker*~

Boy oh boy do I feel your pain girl! I have been in that position myself. What to do? Geez. I am fortunate enough to have family in town that I rely on when necessary. However, I NEVER asked them to look after my teenager when I needed them to look after my daughter. My main concern was my daughter. Not much I could do for my teenager when he wanted to act out at the time.

I still try not to rely on my exAH-BF (how'd you like that one? exA husband-Boyfriend? lol). And I do not rely on my teenage son either. I plan everything around child care for my daughter. It sucks but it is the way I have to live my life.

I am thinking of you and praying that your exAH is NOT looking for an excuse to go out and get high. Maybe he is just going through Male-PMS right now. I sware it exists. Hang in there.

QOD

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

I live around alcoholics so I understand the issue of them picking fights. I know I am far far better at detaching these days. I am also goal focused.

I've been around the block many times with trying to find people to help me and I don't have the same dilemma you do. All I can say is take it one day at a time. The new year is up soon. I set goals for the month and work on them and don't get too far ahead of myself.

Maresie.

carolinagirl · ~*Service Worker*~

one step at a time... trying not to project into the future!! He apologized last night when I got home for the way he behaved. Hopefully this is a sign that things will at least be smooth for a couple weeks? :)

Tenderheartsks · ~*Service Worker*~

I spent years after I left the EXAH making decisions that were not in the best interest of everyone, including my children, but instead on what I wanted at the time. Each and every time that involved depending on a dysfunctional man at the least.

The end result was the rug did get pulled out from under me time after time after time.

The difference between God's will and my will is that my will hurts.

I deferred completing my college education 2 separate times, and today I can look back and honestly say I did the right thing because one or the other daughter was in crisis, and I needed to be fully present. I can look at myself in the mirror every day and feel good about what I did.

I now have one semester left to go to complete 1 associate degree, and then 9 more hours for the second associate's degree. I'm tickled pink to achieve that in college, and both of my daughters are on their own, and the timing was right for everyone. smile

-- Edited by Tenderheartsks on Tuesday 8th of December 2009 12:48:37 PM

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