The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have a new therapist now and our first session went pretty well. I have a full three sessions before Christmas to get started on some topics.
I am now having to take a lot of responsibility for permitting the last therapist to cross significant boundaries. I know I can go into people pleasing at the drop of a hat. I fear such rejection if I stand my ground.
I need to say this I had to make a huge number of requests to get his new therapist. I just persisted and persisted. I kept at it. I did not let go. I also didn't get swallowed up in resentment at my last therapist. She was testing my boundaries from day one and I needed to set limits from day one. I didn't. I sucumbed and I have to take responsibility for that.
I have not had the check replaced yet that was stolen in August. That is now 4 months. I am going to have to go on a persistence campaign to get that. 4 months is supposed to be the cut off. I will let you all know how that goes because my sense of frustration has been severely tested around this issue.
Maresie that reminds me of step two "Came to believe that a power greater than myself could lead me to sanity". On to step three, "Made a decision to...."
Sounds to me like you are doing everything right. Following all the reasonable next indicated moves.
I'm dancing around the idea of starting therapy in January. I also have the people pleaser issue but I am familiar the therapist I'm interested in and am feeling positive about it.
I've been in program almost 25 years (I'm getting old!!!) but there are a handful of issues that only one on one can help for me.
