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angel66


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Hi Everyone,
I'm back no after being off of the board for about a year.  I guess things calmed down w/ my AH but recently my life has been pure CHAOS !
Today I'm taking my 13 yr old daughter to see a psychologist b/c she is so stressed due to his increased drinking and the family dynamics.  I feel sick that I have to do this and that she is going thru this at such a pivotel age.  We both need to start going back to Alanon and Alateen and I need to start coming back here to the nightly group meetings......they really helped.

I'm just feeling very sad, and frustrated, and so ANGRY !  I'm just mad at the world right now.  I dont know which end is up and I dont know whether I'm coming or going.  All I know is that I get blamed for everything and that everything is my fault.  I realize that I am not blameless, but, come on !

I need help and support, wherever and whenever I can get it.

Thanks for reading :)

Jackie

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Holly09


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((((HUGS)))) Jackie, my life too is chaos right now and I can empathize with you.  I think going to get help for you and your daughter is wonderful.  No it is not all your fault, I get told similar things and I realize I play my part.  I hope you find some peace soon.  Holly

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Tattyhead


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Yes, I too, know how you feel. My learning-disabled son (29 going on 10) who has always been the happiest of souls, is now stressed and terrified of being left alone with his father in case "he has one of his turns". (AH has sufered severe withdrawal seizures due to having episodes of being so ill he is unable to drink -10 times in last year)  

I try to keep him (son) happy and upbeat by taking him out on treats, etc but it is hard.

Keep coming back here, Holly, for this is where I have received wonderful support.

((((hugs))))

Tish xx

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Jerry F


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Welcome back Angel...You are going thru what is predicted from falling away from
meeting and the groups and other tools.  It's called a relapse or the "coming
around what what was going around".   That your teen daughter may get
Alateen experience is, from my experience, life and sanity saving for her. I hope
you keep coming back... (((((hugs))))) smile

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Debilyn


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Glad you are back.

I just cannot imagine how you feel.

So into the pit and drama.

I know for me I started heading out on my own. A lot. I mean day trips. It helped so much to get away and have more time away from the A than with them. I wonder if your daughter would like to do that?

Take her and friends on hikes or whatever you like to do. If you can afford it take them shopping, or go goofing around in thrift shops. take her to antique stores and show her how it used to be.

She may balk at first but once you get out the door she may like it. My kids and I went to the fish hatcheries, beach etc. I had no A there but we needed to get away.

Therapy is a great tool. Wish I had insurance to go.

It is sad things are so bad hon. YES get to Alanon if you can. if she will go to alateen that would be sooo good for her.

Sounds like you need some pampering and love hon. My friend told me a long long time ago, if you don't feel normal do something normal. I would clean my house. just simple things.

small steps. Depression may be something going on, the chemical kind. After suffereing so long maybe you are stuck.

glad you came back here. love,deb

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