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Well my ABF is still missing and I have through myself into my programme, meetings, phone calls to sponsor, reading, talking to Hp and guess what I m back. I know it is not personal, I know he will be devastated once he comes round but back to me I have supported him for 4 and a half years HOW IS THIS WORKING FOR ME?
I do love him but I can not fix him, he has proved over and over he can not meet my needs. I seperated from my husband 6 years ago after 17 years because he was ill a compulsive gambler I have had so much pain in my life due to my core belief that if you love someone you stand by them. But today I love me thats what al non has given me. How can i stay with this amn and face my kids when I left their dad. This disease prvents me from being a good mum. I am getting of the merry go round my main prioeity is my children ABOUT TIME!!!
Thanks to al non though I will do it will kindness and compassion. I know it will be hard when i feel alone I squeeze my hands tight and imagine HP is holding one and my group the other
thank you so much to all you Al anoners
-- Edited by Tracy on Sunday 15th of November 2009 11:36:26 AM
With your hand in mine, we will do together what I could not do alone. I love this saying. It is Al-anon.
I also thought I had to stand by someone that I loved. I just forgot to love myself enough to do that for me first.
We will love you til you can love yourself, too. I love this part of this program, too. I needed it.
You know we and HP are here for you.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Tracy, You are also taking care of you. My "A" and I have split and divorce will be happening for us. I asked him to leave for the kids, but I won't take him back for me. I am in such a better place now that his disease is not so in my face.
You are right you are not alone....all of us are here for you. Post as much as you need to.
Yours in recovery, Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
Thank You so much for a heartfelt, courageous share. I agree, alanon taught me to use compassion, and kindness as my most important tools to accomplish my goals.
Holding the hand of my alanon family truly enables me to live life on life's tems with courage, serenity and wisdom.
I am glad your hand is outstreched to each of us here at MIP
