The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Last weekend I went to a wedding. My Deceased Uncle's Girlfriend was there. He was an A. Everyone was so surprised how fantastic and happy she looked. She is obviously taking care of herself. Her and I were talking, she told me how fantastic and happy I look myself. She didn't know that my husband and I were seperated. When I told her I was in alanon, she giggled and hugged me. She said, me and your uncle always told you that alanon was your best medicine. HEHE!
As the evening, when people would compliment me or comment on her, I had to fight back the tears at time. It's so sad that for her and I to be fantastic and happy our A's had to not be in our life. For her, she lost her partner to death and I lost my partner to remaining active and my fear of this disease taking him from me by eventually death one day.
I had to struggle to put the focus back on me and give thanks to the Lord for giving me (and her) the strenght to move forward. God's Grace is Enough for me.
It hurts that I love my husband so much but cant' be with him because his disease is so harmful towards my happiness. And seeing her was confirmation that I am doing the right thing for me.
Hugs all, keep your chins up..it gets hard with or without the A in our life. I appreciate your support.
Thank You for the beautiful, inspiring message. I do believe before alanon I was always looking for the easier softr way. Alanon has taught me that "Life is hard" but with HP's help I am up to the task.
Tonya: I just wanted to say that you are right--God is good, too! He helped me " hold on" to my A but not without lots of struggles--I guess I am in it for the long haul--he has 3years of sobriety now--thanks to God & all the meetings he attends. I feel for you, too. I know it is hard to let go. I let it go when I got divorced almost 15 years ago from a sober alcoholic who mistreated me. But..today I am "over" it. Hang in there! Kathleen
