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i usually don't say anything to my dh about his using. i figure it is his stuff and not my business. my son-in-law works for him and made the comment to daughter that everyone in his business uses. (he doesn't) he complained of a toothache and was told to ask dh for some vicodin.
when dh came home from work,i calmly told him he should be careful about keeping others prescriptions in his car. that he could be arrested. that he could lose everything he worked so hard to achieve. no lecture. just a statement. he blew up at me. was very upset. he said he didn't care if he lost everything. i just went into the kitchen to make dinner. later i told him i was sorry he was upset about what i told him. he said he wasn't angry at me but angry at himself. that was it. we kissed and made up. it is so weird because we rarely have words with each other...
i work my program. and leave everything in gods hands. i don't focus on what he is doing or not doing. about how much or how little he is using. i feel so much calmer just talking to him about how i felt. my heart is smiling today....it's going to be a good one.
hello db - along time ago I was told that by my silence my husb was assuming that what he was doing was ok with me . I was told I have a right to share my fears and feeling about what was going on around me , then i was told to let it go and not expect that anything would change , * which made no sence to me at all at the time * why bother ? was my first thought . Then i was told that it was important that I learn to speak up and I was doing it for ME. Well done Louise
