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Hi I hope I don't offend anyone, but I just don't get it. My adult daughter has struggled with an eating disorder for years and apparently now is also an alcoholic. She is married with a two year old.
She got out of rehab 3 weeks ago and has already been drunk 3 different times. Each tme she swears she learned somethng and it won't happen again. Her husband moved out today and took the baby.
WHY??? I don't get why she is willing to lose everything including her home. She got picked up for a DWI today (first time).
I read these posts and people seem accepting of their loved ones abuse. I can't do that. I may have to walk away as her husband has.
Is there any hope for recovery? Most of these posts seem resigned that you either live with them with alcoholism or you walk away. Again, I'm sorry if I have offended anyone I'm just trying to understand.
I understand your confusion and have been there myself.
The American Medical Assdociation has defined alcoholism as a disease. AA has been founded to assist someone suffering from this disease.Alcoholism is cunning baffling and powerful. The disease can be arrested but not cured.
Alanon offers tools to those who love someone with the disease. We know that we are poserless over this disease and we come to meetings and this board because we have been negatively affected by someone elses drinking.
Alanon suggest you make no major life changes for the first 6 months. Your daughter is seriously ill and we all found that we needed the support offered by alanon.
To find out more about alcoholism I recommend you try some face to face meetings in your local area. Pick up some literature and keep coming back
Being a newbie there is lots to learn if you are willing and humble. Like the question who is the she that you are talking about...your daughter or your alcoholic? There is a difference. Alcoholism is not a moral issue but a disease and being a compulsion of the mind the disease is running her not the other way around. The alcoholic has lost the choice about drinking....The drink is taking the drink and may soon take the daughter. I suggest the rooms of the Al-Anon Family Groups in your area where you can get lots and lots of information about what you and your son-in-law and your daughter are dealing with. Keep coming back there is a lot of support for your already and you are not alone in this.
