The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I haven't been depressed in years and feel like I am falling into it and don't know what to do. Part of this is because I'm not going to meeting regularly - primarily because the ones in my area are not tradition based, and are run like prayer circles which does not work for me. Some program friends and I are trying to set up a new meeting, but it takes time.
I made a quick decision to move into a flat which is surrounded by noisy kids with their techno music. My business is struggling, and everyone, almost absolutely everyone I've tried to work with or parnter with over the past 2 years is either copying our ideas, or outright plagiarising us.
I've done something wrong and I can't get a grip on what. I spent a lot of years depressed and I don't want to keep slipping like this, I thought I'd never have to deal with this, like this again. I do know better than to isolate, so at least that's something.
Aloha Scott...maybe you haven't done anything wrong and are just depressed? I am dysthymic...have been since birth. Once I got the information that it is not about what I've done but how I am constructed I stopped adding to the problem. Self Judgement coming from bad place is not helpful or supportive to a depressant it adds to the problem and eliminates the search for solutions. There are solutions.
Starting a new tradition bases meeting is a great solution!! Do it. I've started meetings before and will be in support if you need. Yes it takes a bit of patience and then it takes courage, tradition persistence and commitment. In support.
Hi there. Sounds like some difficult things are on your plate.
I know how hard this can be. And I know what it feels like to be fearful of falling into a depression. Good for you for noticing and taking steps to do something about it! Starting a new group that will meet your needs, coming to post here, not isolating. I guess you could ask what else can you do? What has brought you peace during other trying times? For me it is exercise, actively being grateful, putting myself into a tiny creative project (I have no time with kids and work for anything other than tiny!). I even keep a list on my counter during times like you are describing....a list of things I have learned I should or shouldn't do in order to remain serene. It reminds me 'do not call your mother'...cause mine is a huge trigger for me. It says go to the gym. It says go to the library. It says plan a simple day trip with a friend someplace I've always wanted to go.
Change positive or negative takes time. Trust your higher power and take it one day at a time.
thank you for the encrouagement and responses. I may take you up on the help with new meetings offer! I just asked a business friend for a space. Letting go...
