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My sister had been addicted to many things in her life and I tried to do everything possible to help her for nearly 50 years. She had gone to rehab, had shock treatments, numberous stints in the psyche ward at the local hospital. She would get sober and then overdose once again. The family tried and tried to do that one more thing that might make a difference and over and over we got her help before it was too late.
Shortly before my father passed away in April she moved in "to help mom" with dad. I think she may have been of some help but most likely mom had her there believing that if she was in her house she could keep her from overdosing. Unfortunately that didn't work and she overdosed more than once since she moved in.
Monday of this week she was still asleep at 10 am so my bil went to wake her up. He found her on the floor, she had died of a heart attack at 3 am.
I can't begin to tell you all the range my emotions have taken this week. I've watched her daughter in pure agony over the loss of a mother she had distanced herself from. I've seen my mom cry tears that she was afraid would not stop. I finally collapsed from the stress at the viewing.
I am so thankful for the five years I have in the Al-Anon program. It has literally saved me again and the love and support from my local 12 step family has been awesom. The last time I saw her alive I did tell her that I loved her and I am so grateful I did. It's one thing I don't have to regret now.
We never know what tomorrow may bring so live today to it's fullest and take the time to make things right with the people you love and always tell them you love them every time you see them.
I will miss her....but now she is free.
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Everything I have ever let go of has claw marks all over it.
CYber Love & Hugs coming your way... I am So Sorry for your loss.. I fear at times I will some day have to face the same loss in my brother, and I am so thankful to be in recovery... One Day at a Time... We are here when you need us...
I will keep you in my Loving Prayers... God Bless you....
Aloha Mo...Auwe!! thats a real sadness and my prayers are with you. I like to underline the special people I would like my HP to pay special attention to and I believe my HP knows all but then...would you care to pass on her name? You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. (((((hugs)))))
My God give you and your family peace in your heart with your sisters passing. I'll keep you in my prayers. It's so sad the way this disease takes away the ones we love.
My deepest sympathies on the loss of your sister Janet. I will keep you and your family in my prayers tonight. Like my beloved Tim they are at peace and are not struggling any more. In my worst moments that's what keeps me going. Janet knew that you loved her and I'm sure she loved you. Rest in peace sweet Janet.
Much love and blessings to you and your family. Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know my younger sister has been an alcoholic for decades. When she sent me a photograph a while ago she certainly looked ill.
I know you did absoulutely everything you could. No one would want for a better sister than you were. I am so glad that you have al anon to support you and your family through this incredibly difficult time.
So sorry for your loss. I also thank you for sharing such a personal tragedy, helps me to remember to show our love and compassion to our loved ones- alcoholics, addicts or not.
My deepest sympathy for you Mobirdie. I have known this kind of loss. May your pain be eased , and keep on with our Serenity Prayer, my friend. God bless Janet. pw
Dear Mobirdie, please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your sister Janet.
In reply to one of my posts you gave me a wonderful,powerful tool which I use often and I now give it back to you with love.......
if at anytime during the process you feel scared, uneasy etc. hold your arm to your side and clinch your fist really tight..... that is us holding your hand while you complete the task at hand....... the great thing about this program is that we NEVER have to do anything alone again.
Oh my Ness, thank you so very much. It's times like this when we forget to use the tools we have passed along to others. I needed to be reminded of that so badly today.
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Everything I have ever let go of has claw marks all over it.
