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Aloha All...glad to be here and have you all a part of my recovery. I was having you all as a part of my recovery this morning, checking in before I started my chores. Making a mental list of what I would be working on just for today and my spouse decided to mention that one thing I might work on was getting off the puter more often. Mostly its my relationship with MIP and checking if any of my clients are needing services....a n y w a y she drops that little suggestion while heading down the hall and out the door. It sounded like a resentment and I said so and then she was gone leaving me with the bait. I sniffed around it for a few seconds and batted it around like a cat playing with a mouse and saw it for what it was, left it alone and then batted it around a bit more before coming to the reality that it was her resentment that she had left and I was getting the opportunity to compound it with one of my own. I don't like taking offense so I let it go and slipped into self acceptance and gratitude while reasoning that I could have made it big enough to choke on and then become bait for the buzzards myself.
Miracles in Progress is my family and my thing. It is a big part of my recovery and my recovery service in spite of outside remarks and attitudes. Nuff said. I'm cool and always grateful for MIP's support.
Thanks as always for explaining your process. I remember years ago I wanted HP to remove all my negative feelings so I did not have to feel any longer.
I discovered with alanon that being human I was always going to feel these feelings and it was my JOB to handle and process them in a CONSTRUCYIVE way. What a unique thought.
Thanks to alanon I have learned to pause, process, think, talk about and finally act on an issue. I heard the same process in your share today and salute you for your wisdom and growth.
I just found myself smiling ear to ear at this as I remember how easily I used to take other peoples resentments so personally. (The world revolved around me, after all, didn't it?) I was a master at indignation and resentment. I still get that bait from my mom and that bait is hard to let lay, but I am getting better. I haven't been buzzard bait in awhile. LOL
Glad you averted disaster today and thank you for sharing it.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Ah yes, I can see how such a comment could snowball into something that could make you choke. In such a situation, my sponsor is trying to teach me to respond with an "oh well", for it is just an opinion after all. Easier said that done for me. Good for you for staying true to you.
Blessings, Lou
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Every new day begins with new possibilities. It's up to us to fill it with the things that move us toward progress and peace. ~ Ronald Reagan~
Sometimes what you want to do has to fail, so you won't ~Marguerite Bro~
Half the fun of being a cat is pouncing on it's pray and letting it escape.Thanks for the lesson so early in the morning. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty (whose out searching for something else to pounce on!)
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Thanks for this Jerry... I still have to practice this OFTEN, particularly with my ex-wife.... This is exactly why one of the quotes on my signature on MIP is the following:
You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to. - Author Unknown
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I feel the same way sometimes when I am responding to a post at my business. An employee might come into my office and I give myself a guilt trip. Why? Because I am self programed to give all my attention to the business. I guess I feel like I am cheating, or not being fair, almost as if I am taking a break from business and no one else can do the same.
I have been able to post very little in the last month or so, but when I do, and the same situation I described above happens again, I am not going to have a guilt trip again. I am going to feed that guilt to the "Buzzards" today. Thanks for the analogy.
"Don't React", and "How Important Is It", my two favorite slogans, also great "Buzzard Protectors".
Hugs RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Friday 30th of October 2009 04:33:09 PM
Thanks for the lesson so early in the morning. 
Much love and blessings to you and your family.
