The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I pride myself on the fact I don't think very often about the ex A anymore. At one time he was part of every single though and I never thought that would be possible. Unconsciously I think now it is otherwise. I had wondered why I automatically cooked large quantities and now I understand I am still cooking as though I am still taking care of him! One more adjustment to make.
I hear that, I think we get so caught up in thinking about another's happiness and trying to be the best wife, girlfriend, etc. that we can possibly be that it's so hard to stop that thinking. Just like I think about buying things for my children I think about buying them for my man and catch myself still looking as if I had one. I have to consciously tell myself - no there's no point in looking at that... skip it. The longer I'm away, the easier it gets.
