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Well - things didn't go how I would have liked them to, but the divorce petition has been filed, AH has been notified informally and my son and I have temporarily left the house.
I'm sad to say that I had to have the police show up to have AH peacefully allow me to take my child out of the house. It didn't have to be that way, but AH chose to test me. He said I could leave but couldn't take our son with me. Hence the call to the police for the escort out of the house. Ugh. I had hoped to be able to have the divorce discussion while our son was at school, but to no avail.
So at least we got out with a couple of changes of clothes, my work computer and son's back pack. Spent the night with some family, made arrangements for temporary housing close to school. Waiting now to hear back from my attorney about the next best things to do about the logistics of dealing with my son's school arrangements and getting AH out of the house.
Taking deep breaths, trying to stay in the now, thanking HP for my awesome family and support friends ...
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your child. From prior posts it's clear you're working a good program and have taken a lot of time in awareness and acceptance before action.
I am happy that you are safe and with your child... I am amazed at your strength, and how well you are handling yourself in such a change in your life... The courage you show is beautiful... Sorry things didn't go as you had hoped, however now you can begin to get yourself back on track and take care of you...
If ya have a meeting... Now would be a great time for one... :) I love My F2F... I never realized how much I needed them till I missed a couple ;) I will continue to keep you both in my prayers and that you find a safe comfortable place to be in the near future ;)
You're not alone. Making decisions and following thru is very dificult and extremely empowering. I am so glad you and your child are safe. Stay strong, you are in my thoughts.
You made it through the hardest part and actaully walked out the door. The next little while will be very uncomfortable and I remember having to use fake it until you make it many many times for the first six months after leaving. After a while the pain fades, the chaos ends and you figure out how to make things work. Life goes on and it gets better. I will be thinking of you and hope that you find the strength to walk the path that is right for you no matter what comes your way.
