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I will listen to I told you so's but please just not tonight. I found out tonight my daughter has been drinking all along, lying to me every step of the way. Her husband has kicked her out of the house and I can't get ahold of her. I don't know if she is safe. My heart is broken. Oh God, to me this is still my little girl. Please God just make that she is safe.
Hello Bluelady I am so very sorry that your daughter is missing. I understand the pain you are feeling, as my son also suffered from alcoholism.
You know that this is a very powerful disease over which we have no control. Please try to stay in the moment, pray (as you are doing) and try to rest.
The basic tools always worked well for me at times like this. Meetings, Reading the Literature,Visiting the Chat room, and of coarse reciting the slogans like: (Let go Let GOd, First Things First, Focus on yourself, DO NOT PROJECT. Stay in the Moment.)
I will pray for your peace and that your daughter is safe.
-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 22nd of October 2009 11:30:42 PM
well hello blue , if anyone says I told you so , walk away . I am sorry about your daughter and her problem , the alcoholic in mylife is my husb , sober along time now . i will hopfully never have to experience the pain of seeing one of my sons suffer from this disease , If your not already attending al anon meetings for yourself please find one in your area u need support from people who can answer a phone when your in crisis , or to share good news with . Your daughter has a Higher Power too and he will take her where she needs to go . she is not alone . I will pray for you both today . Louise
ty for being here for me tonight. I still have heard nothing. My cell is not working right thats why I missed her call earlier, so I sit here and watch the phone incase she calls. I just want too know she is in a safe place. We can work on all the other stuff tomorrow, tonight is what I'm worried about.
Bluelady, we will not 'I told you so' here. We are not mind readers and the alcoholism is cunning baffling and powerful. We are no match for it. Please do what you must to take care of yourself in this trying time.
There is nothing safe about this disease and your AD is fighting for her life. Unfortunately you can do nothing, but hand her over to HP and keep praying for her. I know she is your little girl, but she is also a full grown adult, who must learn to live as one if she is to survive and thrive. Please try to have faith that it can happen for her and she is strong enough to get through the lessons that her HP is putting to her this very moment.
You and she are both in my paryers.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
((((((((((Bluelady)))))))))) Anyone saying "I told you so" is really not worth bothering with. You never stop being a mother and worrying about your children no matter how old they are. Praying you hear good news soon, Tish x
