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"There is almost no work in life as hard as waiting. And yet my Higher Power wants me to wait. All motion is easier than calm waiting, and yet I must wait. So many people have marred their work and hindered the growth of their spiritual lives by too much activity. If I wait patiently, preparing myself always, I will be one day at the place where I want to be. Much impatient activity could not accomplish this so soon."
This is the meditation for the day from Hazelden...
I am finding this to be very true and relevant to recent topics on this board... This is where I am today and my ex bf said... We can only hear hp when we are being still. This rings very true for me today... there is absolutely NO work in life as hard as waiting!
Actually I think waiting is a chance to catch my breath. When I was first in recovery here waiting for the shoe to drop from the A was very very difficult. As I learned to detach I got better at not being so overinvolved. I still was but it didn't destroy me in the same way it did before.
Right now I don't have a relationship and I'm not pursuing one. At the same time, I am probably more proactive and more self preserving than I've ever been. I don't see the need to be passive at all about waiting for change to work out.