Hi all,

It has been years since I have been here.  I used to attend ftf meetings and come here because my sons might be coming to area where I lived or even to live with me.  Well, that happened many years ago.  My youngest son came to me from jail, years of bad addiction to speed, alcohol, and whatever else he get his hands on and a way scared, screwed up thinking and attitude.  After, the first six months living with me, and with the help of the cops through him out.  He went from job to job, (at least working most of the time), went through one addiction relationship, and started up with another co-dependent woman he met at a gas station.  She is from an alcohol/drug family of abusers, convicts, etc.  I like her very much.   She is the best of her family, keeps a job at hospital, and is now after knowing me for a couple of years is willing to go to any length to learn and grow.  Unfortunately, my most rare medical condition, which is made even rarer by a certain aspect of it is aging me very fast and is causing new symptom after another symptom appear.  This condition is not found much anywhere in the medical journals, the Internet, and especially in the local hospitals and doctor offices.  I experience much severe prejudice thus lack of good treatment because of the common peoples immature emotional intelligence etc.  I even got beat up and pinned to a hospital be by hospital staff after I entered the emergency room. 

Anyway, my sons life mate and he separated after almost two years living together.  However, they are still making a go of it even against all odds.  They both concluded that their relationship went downhill after the honeymoon period was over.  He tried A.A. and N.A. but did not continue for long.  He does not drink now and only occasionally picks up a joint.  He might have even stopped doing that since the breakup.    She has concluded that she is co-dependent and a verbal abuser.  He is living with me now.  He just had major surgery on his foot.  He will not be able to hold a job again for about six weeks.  I am supporting him totaling now.  I can afford it.  He has grown much. He can see outside himself well.  When I share with that helping with a particular thing he understands and makes other arrangements.  He hears about how stress can damage my maimed body because it at its utmost endurance level to stress and anymore causes very real harm.  He had been cooking meals for me, housework, etc.  That is so cool.  But now it is my turn.  He does stay at his woman friends apartment on her days off and shell be taking care of him.  I bet that even against doctors orders he try to help still. 

It just amazes me how he listens to me now.  I will say something like the saying, A half of a truth is a whole lie, He will look at me, repeat it, and think about it.  Then at other times I will gently and diplomatically will respond to something he says at me, and I sense my feeling are triggered.  He takes it personally, walks out on the terrace for a cigarette, I let him be for a minute, and then go out and I share some therapy stuff.  Later on in the week, he says he has used what I have shared with him with his woman-friend and that it really works.

That is it for now and that is enough, hun?

Hugs & Luv,
RICHARD