The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I'm sorry I didn't know the location of the picture you were looking for yesterday. I was unsure of what had happened to it when you asked me about it.
I'm sorry I set my boundaries and you chose to ignore them. I'm sorry I snapped at you when I did so.
I'm sorry I lost my composure last night. Heaven knows I tried to maintain it.
I'm sorry I got sucked into your illness. My resistance was down.
I'm sorry I reacted instead of responding.
I'm sorry I threw my water into your face.
I'm sorry I held your shoulders and begged you to stop your verbal abuse.
I'm sorry you chose to walk into the room where our son was and ask me not to put my hands on you like that.
I'm sorry our son heard us fighting. He was scared and upset by it. So was I.
I'm sorry your mom needs more attention. I don't have the capacity to take that situation on.
I'm sorry you feel like I "bought" our kids. I know it's untrue and that's what matters.
I'm sorry you feel like I wasn't hard enough on our older kids. Last time I checked, you were there too and could have contributed more constructively to their academic needs.
Thank you sooo very much for this share. It gave me goose bumps as I've been through so much of the same in the past, it also brought tears..... Very well written and heart felt.
keep coming back......and take care of you!:) Shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Thanks for your honest heartfelt share. The situation sounds so very familiar.
When I arrived at alanon I thought my problem was unusual and my responses way out of line.
The more I listened at meetings, I saw how alike we truly are. That was when I accepted that this is really a disease and the "symptoms" identifiable .
Being able to own my part, as you have just done signaled significant growth in my program.
Keep coming, you are doing great. Already doing Step 9. That's awesome and significant progress.
HALTS - always helps me: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, Sick. When I am feeling any of that, I try to be good to myself, to be gentle with myself because my defenses are always down when I am HALTS.
Be good to blender girl today. Do something fun for you and your son.
Have a wonderful day, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
