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We dropped my husband off at the treatment facility in Tucson yesterday. We were lucky enough to have insurance cover a HUGE portion of it. He will be gone for 30 to 45 days depending on how many days insurance wants to cover.
I'm having some anxiety with him being gone and me being home alone to handle everything - including our 4-year old son who's a madman most of the time these days (but you gotta love him).
My husband is the one who handles all the finances, but I'm going to have to start doing it while he's gone. One of the first things I did this morning was to transfer some money from one bank account to another and pay a bill - hooray for me.
I also went outside and mowed the back yard today - something I had never done before. Heck, I didn't even know how to work the mower and had to figure it out all on my own. Of course there was an unfortunate incident with the weed-wacker (I ran over the extension cord with it and the blade broke), so I guess I won't be using that for a while.
So please keep my in your prayers - I hope I can do what needs to be done while my husband's away (and keep my sanity at the same time).
There's no doubt in my mind you can do what has to be done. It's a great opportunity to empower yourself. My husband has worked out of state for 3 yrs and comes home for a week every other month. You wouldn't believe what I've learned to do in his absence!! Plumbing, electrical, flooring, you name it! I've done things my husband doesn't know how to do..lol
When he was actively drinking he wasn't much help anyway. I'm reminded of the time he decided to burn off the zoysia grass and melted the hose that was supposed to put out the fire, as the fire got closer to the house. (duh).
Hang in there, you got it covered. You just don't know it yet :)
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
From experience, be prepared for the first time you talk to him. I had to write it down on a post it what i would say to him. I repeated so many times, " i understand that this is hard, i understand that you are not comfotable, i am proud that you are taking the steps to get yourself better."
My husbands first trip to rehab lasted 4 days. This second trip lasted 10.
As far as the insurance, ask the rehab place if they would waive the portion that the insruance didn't pay. The place my husband "frequents" does. The insurance pays 80% of 3K a week and they waive the rest.
You do have it covered. I too amazed myself when my husband went into rehab. You are an inspiration Mowing the lawn, Banking. . Remember it is just ODAT and we are all with you.
Good going Mom...Easy does it on getting busy. Even though the alcoholic is in rehab you are still down to one person not more than one. Sounds like the weed whacking chore is a no brainer now. LOL
I know for me when I started doing things that I never had to do before it was a little scary, but I was always proud of myself when I was done. One time I had to take apart the vacuum cleaner because it wasn't working right. I was so worried that I wouldn't remember how to put it all back together again or the time I took the pipes off the kitchen sink because of a clog and the drano wasn't working. It all worked out in the end. I had to keep telling myself I am a smart woman. Now I am not afraid to try to do things I have never done before, but I am still proud of my accomplishments.
Keep up the good work. You can do it and remember you are NOT alone.
Yours in recovery, Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
Oh boy can u do what needs to be done ? You bet u can . Keep it simple do one thing at a time . Prioritize the bills pay the most important first and the rest will follow . cords can be fixed ask a neighbout and bring some tape . Your gonna be just fine . If you can get to as many meetings as possible your going to need support . Sobreity is not the answer to all of lifes problems . The alcohlic is not the only one who has to change we all do . Now is the oportunity to learn about finances ( a good thing ) your going to come out of this a much wiser lady . Louise
You will be just fine, and I think along the way you will realize, just how powerful you can be, when put to the test of life.. ;) EASY DOES IT of Course, and enjoy the down time as much as you can ;)
Your gonna be just fine . If you can get to as many meetings as possible your going to need support . Sobreity is not the answer to all of lifes problems . The alcohlic is not the only one who has to change we all do . 
For Doing what Needs to be done 