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mia883


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I found difficult to cope disbelief.gifwith this friend of mine who has been my partner for a while.
She is very strong and constantly brings self defeating words.yawn.gif
This bullying attitude is described very well "in an article on matrifocus.com  How can use Alanon to stop being attacked from this self defeating behavior? confuse.gif

Mia


-- Edited by canadianguy on Tuesday 22nd of September 2009 02:37:41 PM

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Mia

Remembering that I am powerless over others:

I keep the focus on myself, detach and say what I mean, mean what I say and TRY not to say it mean.

I find program tools work in every aspect of my life if I work it.



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 I have found the best way to deal with negative people is to not engage them in trying to point out the positive side of any situation . I listen and say * YOU COULD BE RIGHT *  and change the topic .  conversation is over  .  Works for me .  or YOU COULD BE RIGHT .  works well too .  The more I try to point out the positives the more fueled they become and i end up frustrated  .  fell for that so many times in the past .   I have found those two lines to be great argument enders .  good luck


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I use JADE
Do not Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain.

If all else fails..walk away.




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