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on a difficult day. AH has changed his reservation and he flies home tomorrow. I checked online yesterday and wrote down the locations and meeting times of AA meetings in our town (very small) as well as 2 neighboring towns. Do I give it to him, tell him this is the meeting schedule, do with it what you will. Or, do I do nothing and leave it totally up to him to find/attend meetings?
Pardon the newbie questions, I am so trying to get my head around the Al-Anon principles and stop my old behavior! thanks for the replies and the support, it means the world right now.
You have already done the research so hold on to the schedule and possibly when you mention that you are going to your alanon meeting he may mention AA meetings and you can give him the schedule.
I know you are concerned please just pray about it and listen for guidance.
We can lead a horse to water but we can not make them drink.....the thing is by giving him the schedule that is just one more step you are taking into telling him go to a meeting...this of course is just my opinion.....if he really wants to go he will do the step work on his own which honestly I think that is best....my opinion of course...he did spend 3 weeks in rehab he got the jest of it...he has learned some tools there to help if that is truly what he wants.
Try and remember his program is on him.....go to your meetings....help you....that is what you are in control of only you. You can make this choice for you....to get well and start living again...Sister you can not make it for him....let him walk his own road to recovery.....now you remember this is my opinion...take what you need and leave the rest.....
Aloha JG...Handing him the AA meeting schedule with expectations and without expectations have two different consequences. Choose one or the other and still you are telling him that you know and know that you know and have begun to build boundaries. What you are doing is a form of communications just don't do it with expectations. If he goes be supportive. If he doesn't go be supportive. Love the alcoholic always.
(((((hugs)))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Friday 18th of September 2009 07:42:18 PM
She told me I could leave it where he could see it/find it, only if I could really "leave it." That meant: Have no expectations whatsoever as to what happened after that.
Christy
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