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Do you have our book One Day at a Time? If so, go to the index and look under Steps. This will guide you to several helpful readings. Also I recommend the Alanon book Paths to Recovery. (((mythoughts))) wp
work the steps one at a time and take ur time, this is all new info to grasp and u cant jump around.
For me, willingly surrenderring my way of doing things and letting go of focusing on other people - is the way the program began to take root in me.
If ur obsessing or worrying, pray and give it to HP/god and let it go. I had to do this many times in a row b4 i could feel it working.
personally, steps 2 & 3 are about faith for me.
Ive heard that step 11 - that meditating is listening for and to god/HP and praying is sharing ourselves with god/hp. Sometimes the signs/messages i get from god/HP are very subtle. When something hits me spiritually, I get chills and feel waves like moving through me.
myway was forcing things and doing things in haste. With god/hp, we need to learn patience and how to be in the right here, right now, so we can get opened up to new possibilities. Try not to focus on any out come - none of us can influence the future, focus on YOU and what u can do to empower yourself, today, right now.
Take care of you and love you - you are worth it!
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
For me I arrived at making the steps how I live my life 24/7 and discarding all the other ways I use to do it which didn't work. Kitty has a good response also. Practice of the 3rd step set me up for a vertical alignment with my Higher Power and how I understand and accept my Higher Power. Step 11 then becomes a constant mindset and practice of that awareness and understanding It becomes my spiritual behavior in improving both the contact and the response to my HP.
I didn't get it over night and there is always room for improvement.
Most of the fear I experienced came about due to my projecting into the future --the future is unknown to us all -- once I was able to get into this moment, today right now - a great portion of fear left me. (hope that helps)
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Yes, that does help. Being a perfect Alanon, I want to control, plan, and know the exact outcome of my decision while being happy at the same time. Like I would love a crystal ball with all the answers. I am usually a very decisive person and believe I know "HP's plan" for me well enough, but at times like now I just can't see the "forest through the trees." And the clock is ticking. At least I feel excitement now versus fear. I have been in fear for the past 3 weeks and could return to that place. I hate struggling....
