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Hello and Hugs Everyone! I'm a lil stressing. This friday will be 3 weeks since my husband moved out. I am blessed to have a great job and make good money. I even got a $1 an hour raise about a month ago. I'm a lil stressed. For the first time in YEARS, i'm having to streeeeeeeeeetch my money. Financially he didn't contribute to anything other than the housenote, which i am thankful is only $700ish. I'll be able to pay all my bills, but I won't have anything extra. HUMPH, i'm gonna have to find other ways to take care of me...no more manis and pedis, trips to the casino, subway everyday and so on....
It's gonna all be okay, I know. I'm so blessed to only have to worry about not getting my toes painted professionally and having to make my own sandwiches.
I'm sure after I get through this month and I actually DO IT, it will be smooth sailing from here!
Reading your story is an inspiration! First you took care of you and removed him from your life, and now you are working out how to take care of you!
I had to do the same thing when I asked my X AH to leave! It was hard, but I was alright!
Now my hours are cut at work and I am collecting social security and now I have to budget again! I do my gratitude list and my step work on steps 1,2,3 and just keep thanking my HP for my blessings and grateful and I had to re-work my budget too, and I am managing! I am not going to be rich, ha ha, but I am ok! You will be too! I just know it!
Blessings,
Neshema
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I am not one to get Manis or pedis... Did it once and think I felt guilty for having such a luxury...lol.. But did enjoy it, and if money wouldn't be squeeky tight now, may try it again sometime...
For me, lookin in to the face of my Son, motivates me to no end, now matter what the mountain I must crawl at the time, I know when I reach the top, it will be well worth the ride back down the other side...
Hang in there Girl... Your Almost there... One Step/Day at a time :)
I can totally relate when husband first left things were hard but he was contributing a small amount....then the addict took over and did not contribute at all.
When he passed he had cashed in everything while using, even his life insurance policy... talk about a shock.....not only was I left with running a household, loss of the main income was a biatch. Plus coming up with the money for the funeral expense.
I promise you there is a light at the end of the tunnel......we just have to keep in mind what is important,. I use to love a good mani and pedi as well been a while.....
I still have two teens one in college one a senior.....also now a g-daughter....what does not kill us definitely makes us stronger my friend.
I can relate very very much. At one time the ex A earned a great deal of money. After a while it got down to nothing. Leaving him meant I was in a real bind and I have struggled tremendously over the past 2 years. Having a check stolen recently has put me over the edge. I think its great you are talking about this.
Since, you are growing so much. Don't let budgeting scare you...it can be a great lesson in learning what your values really are :) Thinking of you, pw
