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hi, I am a first time poster, hope I am doing this right. From the age of 16, until I was 40 years old I lived with my husband who is an alcoholic. We married when I was 20, had 3 children in 5 years. He was a hard worker, a good provider, and everyone,s friend. If you met him you would like him, he was fun and charming. He was also an alcoholic, he was mentally and financially abusive. I lived walking on egg shells, but told no one. I finally shut down, gave up, stopped asking him to stop, let him win the fights. His anger turned to our children, that is when I made the choice to leave. That was nine years ago. I had to start with nothing. I went from a +100k a year household (where I did not work outside the home) to poverty. (our divorce is still not settled) I am resentful. I am hurt. I am stuck. I am so wounded. I am depressed. Can Al-anon help someone like me?
Kat777 you are in the right place al non is right for you. Your life has been deeply affected by someone elses drinking. even when we remove ourselves from our relationships with the drinker we still need time to heal. I hope you keep coming back this programme is amazing and it does work, it helps us to get better. We say in al non come to six meetings if its not for you we will give you your misery back. I didnt want to be miserable anymore so I kept coming back and my life is so much happier today. This site is only one resource though face to face meetings really help the people in these meetings will relate to your experiences and pain. I tried to talk to family and friends but no one really understood when I attended my first couple of meetings I felt so at home, secure ans supported for the first time. Material things can come and go I have also lost my home etc etc. But I am slowly building things back but al anon has given me an inner contentment that I can not explain hope this helps hugs
When I first arrived at the doors of AlAnon your story was mine (except I only had 1 child.) Alanon suggested that I find Face to Face meetings in my community and attend. Meetings, literature, sharing here and at the meetings and with other alanon members helped to break my isolation and restore my self esteem.
I'm glad you are here. You're not stuck. I know it can sure feel like it sometimes. You've taken the first plunge by reaching out and looking for help. You deserve a big congrats for that! Sending a big hug out to you.
Hello and welcome and can Al-Anon help you? You bet it can . I have sponsored young women in your position who have gone from nothing to great careers and today live thier lives with dignity and grace. and you can too . When we live with alcoholsim we go a little wonky hehe self esteem is gone , self worth is a word we simply don't understand , in our program u will find the courage to become the person you were meant to be . . Please find f2f meetings in your community make new friends u need support and u will find it in the al anon rooms . Your life has been affected by someone elses drinking and you too need to recover . Give yourself a hug it takes guts to leave the secrurtiy of a nice home -- you deserve to be treated better abuse is not why you were put on this earth. you saved your children from more of the same . Well done . real meetings , this board and our open chat room will help to get your life back on track , hope to meet u soon . Louise
Kat I am so glad you are here! I am so glad you found your inner strength and stopped the abuse by leaving .
It is in no way easy. Some are still where you were trying to figure out what to do. Your post just helped so many!
Yes big time MIP is for you! There is a great Chat room and meetings online too.
Also there is the link to find a face to face meeting where you are. They are very important to our progress if you can go there. Just go to the top of the message board where a valued member has posted,"Frequently asked questions." Lots of info there.
If not, you are very welcome to meetings here!
Keep coming back! We love you already for putting yourself out there! debilyn
Aloha Kat...Welcome and it truely sounds like you're qualified to be here. It's trust time; the time where you get to read the responses, listen to some of our stories, consider the suggestions you are hearing and then see if the program of the Al-Anon Family groups will work for you as they have for millions of others. The program is "world-wide" which means that there might be a meeting or some meetings very close to you for support. Go to one in your neighborhood and it is as if you are going to one in Hilo HI. my own neighborhood. You meet family who have been where you are at now. You will find links to meetings in your are here at MIP and the best link is the white pages of your local phone book. Al-Anon is what you'll be looking for and then comes the courage to go, sit down and listen, get as much literature as you can and stick around after the meeting and learn more. That you seem to have lost everything is normal for the disease of alcoholism. Alcohol is a solvent and will pretty well dissolve everything it touches.
You will find lots of support here from the membership and can post on the open board and Private Messaging should you want to go one on one with another member. Keep and open mind...no one here will make a decision for you and we don't give advice cause we don't know how. We will make suggestions from our experiences which worked for us or did not. In all cases keep coming back. (((((hugs)))))
