The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I mean like "Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror."
That one struck me because I have a real tendency to read the ODAAT with a mindset of what my brother could learn from a reading in dealing with his wife and kids. It takes a bit for me to stop and look at how the reading applies to me!
Actually, I have come to realize my brothers flaws are often just exaggerated versions of my flaws. So I am using that to turn my critizism of him into examination of myself.
I am especially interested on slogans for setting and keeping boundries.
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Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace within the storm.
The one I have been using the most lately is: It is what it is. Yesterday my counselor added to it, she told me I was saying part of a mantra some people use in medittion. "It is what it is, it is the way."
The other one I have been using is short, simple, and to the point. "Shutup" now this is not a work I normally would say to anyone, and my kids know it as one of a few "S" words they are not to say. I say it to me though because my mouth gets me into so much trouble. When I feel the urge to say something I have been telling myself to Shutup, and the cool thing is I listen to me.
My sponsor has said a lot to me lately when one door closes another opens. It reminds me to not look behind me, but to keep my eyes forward.
And the last one I have been telling myself lately is "shoot the dang hamster" When I start obsessing and can't let go...I tell myself OK Mandy shoot the dang hamster already. I can usually get myself to laugh and then move on.
I don't know if any of these will help anyone else..they work for me and have a bit of humor for me...which ALWAYS helps.
Yours in recovery, Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
"You can't control the wind but you can set your sails."
"The mind is like a parachute, it works best when open."
"Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with Your Divine Plan."
"Listen not to criticisms or accolades both take you off your path." A. Einstein
"Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." B. Franklin
If you are looking in the past or the future, you're not living in the now.
The present is a gift. The gift is now. Live for today. Live for each and every new moment.
Be gentle with yourself.Fight for yourself, you are worth it, if you dont who will? Those are a few I really like. Perhaps the guidelines for setting boundaries will help u as well, I know they have helped me.
6 GUIDELINES FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES
HAVE CLEARLY DEFINED EXPECTATIONS.
CLEARLY DEFINED CONSEQUENCES THAT DONT DISRUPT YOUR SERENITY.
SET THEM CLEARLY.
COMMUNICATE THEM THEMCLEARLY.
ENFORCE THEM CONSISTENTLY.
WITHOUT REGARD FOR THE RELATIONSHIP (RELEASE ANY EXPECTATIONS ABOUT THE OUTCOME).
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace. Jimmi Hendrix
To be identified with your mind is to be trapped in time: the compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation. Eckhart Tolle
Nothing ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being present now; and if the past cannot prevent you from being present now, what power does it have? Eckhart Tolle
You can begin to shape your own destiny by the attitude that you keep. Michael Beckwith
Your thoughts are powerful creators, and your words are even more powerful than your thoughts, but your actions are more powerful than your words or your thoughts. Abraham-Hicks
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
"When you think about your A, imagine her with a great big SSS tattooed on her forehead, and it stands for sick, sick, sick.."
"Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was." R.L. Evans
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind" ---Dr. Seuss.
Its not denial. Im just very selective about the reality I accept. (by Calvin, of Calvin & Hobbes)
It's easy for me to point out problems in others. It's the ones in me that count and need correcting.
Words can only be used for one of two things: to "build up", or to "break down".
Believing that the world will treat you fairly because you are a nice person is kinda like believing that the bear won't eat you because you are a vegetarian....
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
So long as we need to control other people, however benign our motives, we are captive to that need. In giving them freedom, we free ourselves. Marilyn Ferguson
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Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace within the storm.
SmartKat: I mentioned one just yesterday that my husband told me years ago! MY ARMS ARE TOO SHORT TO BOX WITH GOD! What that means to me is that I have to remember not to get angry & try to fight with God. He is the one who I need to fight with the least! Kathleen--another smart Kat!
Every day my favorite is this one. I don't know where I picked it up or who I should credit with writing it. I've have it taped to my monitor for the last couple years.
"Every decision that I make stems from what i think i am and represents the value I place upon myself"
I've made better decisions since I put it there LOL
