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Yesterday I embarked on a 90 day journey of self improvement. I have decided to do this to get on with my life and let go of my ex boyfriend. I am not smoking, drinking, eating carbs or seeking a relationship/sex for the next 90 days. Plus exercising every day. I'm hoping to lose 45lbs in 90 days. I am reading a great book on improving self confidence and it has been really eye opening and helpful to me. A lot of the focus is on remaining positive and using the law of attraction. I am feeling better already. I have been on 6 weeks of self destruction since the break up and have found. 1. when I drink I miss him and I do stupid things that drive him farther away from me. 2. Alcohol has calories and I have been trying to lose weight. So thus the quitting drinking. I have been wanting to quit smoking again anyway and only picked it back up when we broke up. I lost 19 lbs in the last 6 weeks just being miserable and not eating so I figure if I put forth some effort to eat better and exercise I can lose even more. And the no sex/relationship seeking is because 1. I want to respect what we had as being very special and not disrespect that by trying to "replace" him. and 2. I want to keep the focus strictly on me and my self improvement. and 3. I don't want to jump into another relationship and end up repeating my same pattern.
Good for you for putting yourself at the top of your own list... Sounds like you could use some extra will power & Prayers so they are coming your way... Keep us posted and let us know how you are doin!
Go Girl... You Got this :)
One Day at A Time... Easy Does it....Prgress Not Profection
It must be in the air CG, as I decided to work on some self improvement issues too-just this am......some changes are in order for me to be happier and to have my old self esteem back........so here we go!!!!!!!
I agree with Jozie-YOU GOT THIS!!!!
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
When I first got into recovery 7 years ago, going on 8, my first sponsor who was a male Ha Ha, told me that for the first year at minimum- I was to not get into any male-female relationships- I see the wisdom in that because it was a distraction from me- I went further than that and did not date until I was a few years into recovery to insure that I would
Never lose me again and become obsessed with the other
And to be healthy enough to sense toxicity in another and also to be able to set boundaries and to always keep the focus on me
Please use what you can and discard the rest,
Neshema
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I lost 30 lbs over the past year. I'm not sure it is possible to lose the kind of weight you are suggesting unless you are on the biggest loser or some such program. I still have 20 lbs to go and I believe it will take me month to get there.
ohhhh good! You are sounding like you are taking care of YOU. (o: It will also make it easier to contend with the kid. (o:
Hey now my esh. I do not pick a number. I would do what you are doing for health, and a lifetime change. If I get on a scale every day and play that game I get compulsive. If it is not a life change, a way I will eat forever, and a way I will exercise forever it is all for not.
I always walk, do heavy work, make myself even though the arthritis is bad. But when I work I forget about it. It is when i am still it hurts.
So loving me and treating my body very tenderly is my goal. Health is my goal.
I am addicted to sugar. Want to figure that one out! I am powerless....My familiy all has or had blood sugar issues.
You may want to look back to your family roots. See what your genetics are and what you can do to encourage the good ones, and work on the not so good ones. Like tendancy for diabetes, ashma, heart issues, etc.
You continue to surprise me.
Would LOVE a pm about your kids. How is daughter? Is she ready to come to Eden and train and care for a horse? It works i tell ya!
Sometimes you don't want to hear what is said but it's still the truth and the truth hurts. It gets lodged in your brain for you to revisit when you're strong enough to take a step back and see if it is something that you're ready to face and overcome or not. So far so good on my journey and I am feeling better and better now that I have changed the focus. I feel like I have my faith in myself back and am remembering that things happen for a reason and there are still great things out there for me. It's only been 3 days but I think this 90 days is going to change my life forever!
very good stuff here - I gained weight in my thrities and am still wearing it, it disgusts me, honestly but so far I havent done much about it. I will be curious to see how it goes for you, three months doesnt seem like a very long time and that would be inspiring to me. I think the reasons u want to do this are sound... so important to be finsihed b4 u move on ~ kudos on ur progress!
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
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