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Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really happened. He could've been suspended or he could've been fired for drinking on the job. He refused to take a drug/alcohol test, so they escorted him out of work after he had been there for 4 hours. My sister-in-law works for the same company and she said that if you refuse to take the test, then it's automatic termination. My husband was too drunk to make any sense at all, so it was pointless to carry on a conversation with him. I just dropped him off at home, grabbed a few things, and left with my son. We are spending the night at my Dad's condo and my Dad is here visiting right now.
We're supposed to have my son's 4th birthday party on Saturday. In fact, I was shopping for birthday party supplies when I got the phone call today. I don't know what I'm gonna do - I can't cancel the party, that wouldn't be fair to my son. When my husband gets like this, he could go on a bender for days. I need him to shape up or ship out so I can get the house ready for the party.
Boy, my day definitely ended a lot different than I thought it would.
If your husb got fired today don't expect him to shape up by saturday . u have made your plans , carry on it is after all for your son . Remember your not responsible for your husb behavior if he makes an ass out of himself on Sat so be it .
Well, I've had a night to sleep on it and I must say that I'm pretty proud of myself for dealing with all that stuff yesterday and not taking a Xanax - hooray for me.
Of course with a new day brings new worries - money, health insurance, etc. I'm so mad at him. I know alcoholism is a selfish disease, but I'm still so pissed at him for being so f-ing selfish. He has a good paying job - one that can afford fo rme to be a stay-at-home mom. There is no way I could get a job to support our family - I never went to college.
We knew there was a chance that he could lose his job once he landed in jail for his DUI, but that's still a few months from now. All he had to do was to stay out of trouble for a few months so we could save up some money and figure out what to do if he lost his job.
I don't know what to do. We're still at my Dad's house. I haven't even called my husband yet. He called me last night, but our phone call got cut off and he never called back. I don't know if I should leave my son with my Dad and head over to the house by myself, or if I should just bring my son with me? I hate to impose on my Dad, even though I'm sure he'd say it's no imposition. This whole thing sucks and I have no control over it - I HATE IT!!!
I think you did just fine _ I understand this must be hard for all of you , you have a right to be angry and a right to say so , but please leave your son at home with your dad I am sure he would agree to help . try not to project about the future , with some honest effort on your husb part some are given a second chance , and your right this is a selfish disease it dosent care who it gets . He is alcoholic mom and not drinking at this point is not an option .*staying out of trouble * You have a birthday party to plan that will keep you busy , in our literature there is a passage that goes like this , when in a crisis stop and ask yourself What would I be doing right now , if this werent happening ? that line always got me moving and doing what was in front of me , I cannot control what is happening and my life can't stop because of a mistake someone else made, do a go feet go and tackle that party for your son . your gonna be just fine . Louise
