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Rita G


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So it's an entirely different life for me now.

My world has been changed so much. 

It will soon be a year that I left that beautiful home that I worked so hard for - the one that I prayed for, ached for and waited so patiently for after Hurricane Rita.

Many of you gave so much support to me, in 2006 as we went thru delay after delay and then finally December 23, 2006 spent the first nite in what I believed would be my home sweet home forever.  It was the house of my dreams.  I truly loved that home and poured my heart and soul into making that a "recovery" home.

BUT the disease of alcoholism/addiction had other plans.  November 27, 2008 - I walked away from that home.  It was no longer a safe or serene place for me.  After 2 plus years of living with active addiction - the God of my understanding said - "no more, Rita - it's time to be free"

Since leaving, I have experienced many many heartbreaks.  My ex's disease has spiraled out of control and I have still suffered the consequences of his disease - in my wages being garnished, sued for spousal support, the spreading of mean rumors, semi-stalking behaviors, financial destress, then into bankruptcy and the loss of that home.

It sounds almost like a horror movie . . .

BUT let me tell you - Never once have I thought about "i shouldn't have left"

Let me share with you the blessings that I have received since walking onto this path that the God of my understanding has directed me . . .

My physical, spiritual and mental health have tremendously been healed - I feel so wonderful.  Waking up in the morning is a JOY.

I spoke at an AA Convention in April and was completely surrounded by fellow members of Al-Anon, AA and NA giving me so much love and support - I felt like the most loved person in the WORLD!!

I have been able to continue my relationship with my daughters!! ALL 5 of them (including my step-daughters) - they all love and support me, unconditionally!

I may have lost the material house, but I would live in a cardboard box on the side of the road before I would give up this amazing peace that dwells in me 24/7.

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one of the biggest surprises is that God also brought a someone in my life.  Totally unexpected and unplanned - a new relationship. AND if even possible - I think HE's a NORMIE????? ha ha ha

So now I have a gentleman in my life that respects me in the same way that I respect others and MYSELF - the way that Al-Anon taught me, the way that my MIP and my recovery family helped me learn to do.

Lots of the other drama with my ex still continues as we try to resolve all the outstanding issues.  Somedays I wonder will it ever be over and done with - will it ever been finished. 

BUT in "Ritaville" in my heart, soul and mind - I am Happy, Joyous and FREE - because I have been given tools, serenity and sanity - Through the God of my understanding, the 12 steps of recovery and the help and love of my recovery family.

It truly does work if you work it!

Wishing you Serenity, Joy and love,
Rita




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Loupiness


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(((Rita)))

You are amazing. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for the HOPE! Just what I needed to read this morning...

Blessings,
Lou



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Karilynn


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(((Rita))),

Sweet lady you have put such a smile on my face this morning.  Thank you for that.  I am so happy for you.  Much love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty aww

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RunnerChick


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Thank you for sharing Rita. Such hope and inspiration!

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Mandy123


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((Rita)),
Thanks for sharing where you are at with us. Your use of this program in your life is a great inspiration and I needed to hear it.

Yours in recovery,
Mandy

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Rita G


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Thanks everyone.

You know after living the 1st 10 yrs of the marriage with active alcoholism/addiction then him going to rehab getting sober and working recovery for almost 3 yrs - it was a hard blow when he relapsed. Knowing what could have been - then seeing it fade away was heartbreaking.

Over that 2 yrs of living with the active disease, his denial of his relapse and all the insanity that goes with it - it was a tough and painful life - lots of grief work, lots of looking at myself and what did I truly want for MY life and what was GOD's plan for me.

I got lots of love and support here - it was crucial to my recovery!!

Thanks again!!!

Rita


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Melissa21


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Thanks for sharing Rita. Helps give me more hope!!

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Thank you, Rita, for sharing your story and ESH. You give me inspiration. I am on the verge of whether I am leaving it all behind for my own serenity, or hanging in there one more time. I do feel like I could live with nothing but my own serenity, dignity, and my children. What more do I really need? I, too, would face losing my home, probably bankruptcy, etc. but feel peaceful with it, even not knowing "how" I would survive. I trust more and more in my higher power to keep me safe.

Thanks again for sharing.

(((hugs))))

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Rita

Thanks for sharing your powerful experience , strength and hope.  You are an inspiration.

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shellyj123


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(((Rita))))

Thank you for a great share!  It's amazing what you went through and where you are today.  I'm struggling to find that place again today but I know there is hope after reading your post.

Soooooooo very happy for you!

love and peace
shelly

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DreamsOver


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Thank you for sharing, what an outstanding testimony to your strength, heart and resilience.

You are on you way!

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