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Well today I got up not feeling very rested at all, still strung out from the week of events that had been layed before me...But got up just the same...
Husband came home tipsy last night, I found my best defense was to "Mind my OWN Business" & just let him pass out without words... So that is what I did, So I found it funny this morning that when I got up and started reading my daily's in my
"Hope for today book" is reads...THOUGHT FOR TODAY.. Today I'll stop minding other peoples business & create some business of my own to mind... Hummmmm
& under that is reads: Al-Anon helped me to...See that many of my problems stemmed from minding everyone's business but my own... Hummmm
So for today, FOR ME, I am Minding my own business... I am staying in the NOW, Staying in the moment that lays ahead... For today For ME, I have a dinner date with a girlfriend of mine, we "ATTEMPT" to getogether once a month, and have dinner without kids, and just talk, and enjoy the adult time, She too has an Addict/Alcoholic Brother that is close to my age, and we all grew up together, it is something her & I started doing about a year ago... I have been lending her my books, and she has really takin alot from them.. Her ABrother is currantly in jail AGAIN for the 10th itme for drugs, "Herion" being his drug of choice...And she has truly enjoyed the "Detachment" part of the program I share with her...
And I am blessed to have My SIL, who is taking my son to his Soccer Scrimage so that I can do just that...I have never missed one of my sons "Anythings", but after speaking with him last night, and after all the drama, he informed me that he knows I need to just be away for a little bit... God Love him!!!
And tomorrow, welp... Myself, my Boy & My SIL & Her Boy are taking our kids to the park for the day, and I hope to be riding the water slides, and sliding myself back into some kind of FUN Time...
Yesterday sucked, no dought about it, but... Yesterday is gone, and for now I have to move in a forward motion... I have one more "Glitch" coming this weekend, that is OUT OF MY CONTROL, and that is My Grandma Moving across country at 85, but again... I have to do what I have to do to help her out till then, and just move forward... So Just for today, I plan to "Mind my Own Business", and Take care of me... Something I have forgotten to do for some time... Weighed in this morning ,and lost 2.5 lbs over the weekend so something is working :) Something possitive to start my day... FINALLY ...
Thanks for letting me Share and Sorry for yesterdays Lack of Self Control... Still baby step'n my way, back to me... One Moment at a Time...
Thanks Jozie...I know what you mean...I am too minding my own business with my sister and son. I'm working on me today. I read the best book this weekend.."Change your mind and your life will follow" I got so much out of it as far as detachment and start focusing on me. It's baby steps here too! I am just so glad to finally realize just what I have been doing to myself. Have a great time with your friend.
Jozie, I think my most favorite tool is minding my own business (but every tool is my most favorite tool). For me it works even better when I just tell myself "just shutup Mandy nothing you want to say is going to be helpful to the situation" I also pray that my HP, God, help me to just be quiet.
It really worked for me this weekend. My AH verbally through something at me that was purely hateful. I just didn't know what to do, so I walked out of the room. It was the best choice I could make.
I hope you have a serene dinner with your friend and that you and your son and family have a great day tomorrow...good taking care of you.
Yours in recovery, Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
). For me it works even better when I just tell myself "just shutup Mandy nothing you want to say is going to be helpful to the situation" I also pray that my HP, God, help me to just be quiet.