Greif, pain, and would love some ESH... - Al-Anon Family Group

Jozie · ~*Service Worker*~

Greif, pain, and would love some ESH...

Inpain · Senior Member

Jozie,

I would be angry too. I think you're allowed that emotion right now.

I'm not sure what to say. I have a lot of reactions to what you're going through tonight because I have three little ones. My first knee jerk one is to call child protective services, but the ripple effect might devastate the kids, but in the long term it might be better, but who knows?

I don't think any of the above are al-anon priciples.

I think a better option is to bring your son out for the biggest ice cream sundae of his life tomorrow and have a mother son day. "For those of us who are fortunate enough to have young lives in our care, we can forget our troubles in forgetting loving attention to them and their development. Observing our children is like reading a fascinating and often amusing book - I will not isolate myself in my problems. I will observe what is good and pleasant in the world around me. Let me not deprive myself lof the little joys that are mine for the taking." ODAT

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Jozie...Just a suggestion, try converting some of that energy into a 911 call
and a report of a drunk driver with children in her car. It's okay. It is also what
I do today. The phone, cell phone, 911 system, dispatchers, public service officers
and all of that are all part of the "tools" today. If you stay in hate you stay in
powerlessness and most of the time I admitted that what I was really hating was
myself for believing that I was alone to change it. I wish you a meeting.

(((((Hugs))))) smile

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

Jozie it was the day you were dreading and it certainly didn't pan out well.

I'm right behind Jerry on this one I would have no hesitation in reporting anyone responsible for kids who drives drunk.....or indeed anyone driving drunk.

((((((Support hugs)))))

Ness

Mobirdie · Senior Member

I also agree with Jerry and Ness. Anytime a child's safety is involved I will go to any length to protect them.

If she is still on the road a call to the Highway Patrol with her tag number would suffice.

That being said, you have to prepare yourself for the fallout afterwards as well.

Jozie · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Guys... As Always It is nice to have someone that "Get's It"... Even when I can't...

I made sure they made it home safe, I contacted the Grandma, and Spoke with her for a good while, and she told me that she then went BACK OUT after she dropped the kids off to her... Sooo She isn't changing & it isn't my place to make her, I did have some very nice chats with the kids yesterday as in what to do, if something would happen, we went over calling 911, and made sure they both had our phone numbers in a safe place that they could get to any time they needed to...

I haven't called yet today to find out if they left, but plan to later, when my thoughts are better for ME...

The kids are the only concern I have, As for her & My ABrother, well Sorry to say, when she takes the kids to FL. myself and my Abrother will no longer have ANYTHING to speak about... I can't live in the kind of "Fantacy World" he exists in, and I know he is sick but so am I... Sick N Tired of dealing with the HELL he puts us thru with his drinking/drugging... So I plan to get out my "Detachment" memorize it, and move on... That is what "I" Need for "ME" and that is what is now important...

I told the kids I would call them Once a Week, and we got them both address books, and a box of envelopes already addressed, and stamps... So I feel it was something that would give them security in knowing we are still here...

I have Prayed Prayed & Prayed some more, and I know HP will see us thru, I just have the burning desire for it to be "Right Now", and Welp... We All Know that "Our Right Now" is 99% of the time Not "Hp's Right Now" so I am still baby stepping it, but still tryin my best to hang on...One Day at a Time...

As for my son, well I love the fact that we talk, and I would never make him responsible for my Emotions by know means, he is a very strong young man with a heart of gold, and I couldn't be prouder of him... I have dicussed with him for many years the effects of Alcohol and drugs, and he knows "Why" they do the things they do... I have prayed as often as possible that me being open with him will lead him down a better path...For I had always wished or Honesty in my life, and it just never came, and caused me even more confussion, and misdeeds...

I want to thank you all for bailing me out of my own "self Pity", I feel so blessed to have such a place to dwell & celibrate my life...

I did go to my "Home Al-anon" picnic Saturday, and it was great, good food, good people, great day... And Tho I caught some heck for not being at my F2F the last month, I needed it and plan to get "Back on Track" as soon as I get thru this next week with Grandma Leaving... So Things are coming around, I am still hang in, and Holding on with both hands, for I have never been a quiter and the "A's" in my Life will not make me something I am not...

So going to more ON... not Back, and get back to "Looking Up" Not bac or around :)

Thanks again Guys.. I am truly blessed... Sometimes I just need to remind myself of that... With much love

Jozie

Love & Prayers to all

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

I believe Al anon is all about owning our power. There are tools that are very useful in this situation. Detaching is one of them. All of us have been around destructive, on a spiral alcoholics. We lived to tell the tail! There is a great primer on detachment at www.coping.org

Maresie.

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