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Drama Goddess today left for a residential treatment program in another city, escorted by her probation officer. Hopefully the beginning of some recovery for this girl... if you've read about teenage girls and their "issues", she's been there / done it.... except for doing drugs and getting pregnant. Yeah, big ones I know. I got to have a talk with her yesterday (in the hospital) and tell her how much she means to me, and that the work she is embarking on is hers and hers alone, but she can call me and talk any time she is permitted to and wants to.
I will miss her... I miss how full of life she is, even when she is sick. Whatever God has in store for her, I hope and pray it is better than she could ever imagine. I know it has been for me.
Hey no matter what this is a great thing! Her chances of staying in recovery longer are higher as she is younger.
Her brain can still soak things in. Many of us do not realize that all A's are not educated in their disease. Some have never heard of a 12 step program.
Kids are like sponges, she will get so much info. Also she will have clean time to really feel her feelings and feel others also.
What does she do for fun? What are her passions? Everyone around me Barisax, used in the 60's on up. I did not. I swam in our pool, walked,rode my horse, goofed around with my girl and boy friends. EVen when they were all at a party, I chose to stay staight.
Being sick was not pleasant to me! I had things to do the next day even if it was mowing the lawn!
It worked for my friends kids too, help them find their passion and support that.
Your love is so so apparent. That will mean so much to her when she goes thru those super hard times.
I wish her well on her recovery. She's in good hands. All you can do is turn her over to her HP and let them take it from there. She's lucky to have you. Keeping you all in my prayers. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Sorry to hear she is having to learn it the hard way. What a blessing she has you and her mother to know when to detach. Stay strong, stay safe. Prayers for your whole family.
How sad it must have been to see her go thru this again.
praying that this time the disease does NOT win - that this time she allows her HP to reach her and to help her on the path to true recovery. That she finds that path to inner peace and serenity.
HUGS, Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
This is actually her first round for long term treatment. She has been in and out of several short hospital and psych ward stays for the past 6-8 months. It just took a combination of opportunity and circumstance for this to be court ordered, which removes the financial burden for sure.
DG's mom - my daughter - has 14 years clean and sober. DG has all the genes for alcoholism, but because of her in-program upbringing, has avoided drugs or alcohol... but as one who also went through my teens "sober", I know how we manage to find a way to addict ourselves to something. I was so strange as a teen that when I discovered alcohol, I actually became more "normal"... LOL.
I suppose this might be controversial, but I'm using myself as the example... I believe I was born an A, and had all of the isms and behaviors years before I ever took my first drink. Alcohol simply dropped the last piece of the puzzle into place. Of course it took me a lot of years after that to come back around. When I stopped drinking, I was once again that inept, fearful teenager. The only difference was, I wasn't afraid of him anymore. Matter of fact, I was glad to see him since I though I had left him in the dust long ago. That was the beginning of recovery for me. I don't think I could have done it as a teen because I wasn't even done getting sick yet... and in some ways hadn't even gotten started.
The Big Book says alcohol is a symptom, and the disease is present whether the A is drinking or not. If the disease is not treated - if we don't find a new way of living - the disease will get us, either directly or indirectly. It's working on my DG right now via the "everything but alcohol" method, but there's no doubt in my mind what it is.
for you and DG, Barisax
