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Hi, My name is Jenni. My husband is 8 mths clean/sober through AA. We have been separated since April 08 due to his addiction. Since that time we have engaged in new relationships. We have 2 beautiful children and are currently thinking about reconciliation. I am a member of Alanon along with a another twelve step group. Just thought I would pop by.' Jenni from Downunder
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Faith is a bird that senses the dawn but sings while it is still dark.
Welcome to the MIP board, Jenni. I hope you pop in some more.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Thanks. I am VERY scared of this prospective reunion. It's not happening TODAY, so will take things one day at a time. We're going to do counselling first.
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Faith is a bird that senses the dawn but sings while it is still dark.
Aloha Matey or is it Matess!! LOL Welcome to the family!! Fear is optional I learned. Of course so is Faith for that matter and with your experience in "group" you might also agree that emotions are choices. The differences for me are that the negative ones I do alone and the positive ones with my HP.
Trust God.... Clean house.... Help others. Trust God comes 1st.
Actually my ex gave me a little God Box on Saturday. To place all my fears and worries in today. You just reminded me of it so Ive grabbed it. Here's what it says
"I am God. Today I will be handling all of your problems. Please remember that I do not need your help. If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you can not handle, do not attempt to resolve it. Kindly put it in the SFGTD (Something for God to do) box. All situations will be resolved, but in my time, not yours. Once the matter is placed in the box, DO NOT hold onto it by worrying about it. Instead, focus on all the wonderful things that are present in your life now".
Isn't that nice.
And it's just "Mate" lol or if you wanna be REAL Aussie, Gday Mate
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Faith is a bird that senses the dawn but sings while it is still dark.
Hello and welcome Jen , Jerry has the right idea . I had to do the same when husb and a I decided we wanted to try again after a 9 mon separation , after a bit of a struggle i finally decided I couldnt do it anymore so i gave the relationship to God and said if were gonna make it , your going to have to do it , cause i quit . and voila 20 yrs later he is still doin it . Take care of you , don' tloose yourself again ,and no matter what happens You will be ok . Stay out of his stuff ( hard to do I know ) we have a rule here , we don't get to take each others inventory , most days we stick to it hehe . good luck Jen
