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I took the day off my part time job today to start the storage project. It is indeed daunting. I have a small amount of the ex A's junk which right now is not triggering me. I'm hopeful I can get the stuff out of storage in a matter of weeks but there is a lot of sorting out to do and donating and so forth. Making the time to do it is difficult because I am so ambivalent about it. I know full well that I held off because I really hoped I would have someone to help me. At the same time I realise the desire to have someone take care of me has been absolutely disastorous for me throughout my lifetime. So I'm going ahead and doing it myself I know its a step forward to whatever happens. Right now I don't know what the future holds as the economy is so bad but I know I'd like to be ready for it rather than bogged down in what I should have done in the past.
I am in a similar place. My son's stuff has been here for almost a year. If you don't need it for year, why have it? My AHsober came today to see our son. (separateld you know for 4 years). He walks around the house nonchalantly saying I want this, I need that picture for my house, I will come back for this. As if 30+ years of marriage can come down to shopping unemotionally like you are at Walmart. I have had a break between working for a couple of weeks. I have been going thru drawers, closets, books, and other crappola. I feel the same way. I want to lighten my load in case of everything: divorce, new job, moving. I just want to know what I have, what I need, and try to detach from my AHsober's stuff.
In support, Nancy
-- Edited by nmike on Friday 7th of August 2009 09:05:21 PM
