The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Cured, fixed, finished, graduated?... words i don't see in any of the approved literature... LOL
Serenity, progress, hope, love, healing ... I hope anyone who is or is not peaking in here very often is getting their full share of these... We all deserve it!
Take care of you!
- ron
[ron's thinking to himself, I am not about to call David old... he is close enough to come kick my @%] *smile*
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Hey!! oldtimers??? abbyal is a bit l onger than I. tt is still here, christy aren't you old haha tea, barisax david geez I couild go on and on.maria m arisie, teddybear
I know, I miss co dependant , luna,lots of them iona
is here still
board changes all the time.
I am glad youi are here. that is what made us always pass the duct tape around, so people would stay. tied shoestrings to chairs, super glue on chairs.
I have been in the chat ro om and it feel= feels so much like home, plus we have tons of fun IF you want to have fun come there
we also get se4rious when we have to. but we go thru hours of goofing around
I know being on the board is time consuming because you can't just "drop in" and catch up. Reading takes time, replying even more, iniating topics even more time..... For some of us the enormous changes in our lives may make it difficult to get here.
I relate to all of the above except being recovered (past tense) and Christy's ole walker (chuckles).
I, too, miss some of the experience of others. Sometimes folks are either only in the chatroom or only on the message board. Sometimes folks might be working on one of the steps with their face to face group and time can be a factor. Sometimes people are in different phases of their recovery . . . newtimers . . . middle timers . . . and oletimers and are getting what they need elsewhere.
in recovery, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Well I am kinda a old timer and to be honest.. I do post and reply when I can.. I do for sure read as much as i can even though i may not reply.. Sometimes to have the attention to reply or post is sometmies hard for me though.. Just takes to much at times.. I wil try to do it more.. Good question though.. We need to get the old times here as well as in the chatroom.. I miss them as well.. Love and hugs to all.
Don't know if you'd call me an MIP "old timer" but I am here, having returned this afternoon from visiting my sons and daughter and granddaughters in Pennsylvania. Had a great week with hardly a thought about the A who stayed home to care for the animals. I am pretty sure he did not drink while I was away....WOOOOO HOOOOO!
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
It is nigh on 26 years since my first f2f meeting of Alanon so that would put me in the OLD category me thinks, however it is just coming up to my second year in October since my first tentative steps into this family's neck of the woods and so that would make me a relative new comer maybe.
"Guilty as charged, m'lady." Yep, guilty of not popping in as much simply because there is such a lot happening in my life and I am finding that I am juggling all aspects with my Alanon recovery too.
However, some of the classmates simply move on and as David says have maybe recovered...hmmmm, not like me and thee, we are still on our walk to holistic recovery and I guess we will be popping by for eons longer.
And like Jerry, I need a lot of sleep too, [shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh don't wake him]ooops did I nod off then?
Off for a snooze in a nod and a wink of an eye.
Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
I recall my sponsor commenting on how it upset her when people came into Al-Anon, took what they needed, and then disappeared rather than staying around to help in the cycle of learning here. That made a big impact on me and kept me steady here for a long while.
I also recall the lesson of JADE... I don't have to Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain. Since this question comes up every now and then though (of where do people go?), I decided to just share my own response of "where" and "why".
I had a big life change 2 years ago. When it all started I was pretty scared, not knowing how things might turn out. I did as a good friend here always says... "don't do something...just stand there!" I "stood there" and didn't try to direct my life, impose My Will on it. I asked God to show me what He wanted for me to do. Well that led to my getting back into the faith of my youth (which I am still working on - you all know what it takes to make changes in your thinking/attitudes/behaviors). It also led to my A deciding to move out and sleep with others, which was the real death blow to our marriage. He and I both made mistakes - I add that because I do not want it to sound all one-sided - I did things after he moved out that I shouldn't have done, but that was the person I was then. I finally saw what I was doing needed to be corrected, and took the steps to do that so that I could move on with a clean conscience.
Since that time I have been blessed with a loving caring husband who treats me in a way I have never been treated in my whole life. He takes his duties as husband/father (as written in the Bible) very seriously and works on molding himself into a better person every day, and helping us all to do so also. His mild manner really helps me in working on my own tendency to just flare up. Our children are much calmer and happier. Even the dogs are now happy and tension free!! I thought I had "serenity" before my life change - ha! what did I know... LOL.
Anyway, the "why" of not being here.... at first I needed to submerge myself into happy, healthy people who could help me find my way. I still read the board here, but honestly, it mostly depressed me. And most of the "depressed" feelings I was getting was because there are so many... so very many... who come on and write how hopeless/tired/sad/devastated/hopeless they feel. And it would "depress" me because I know what can help them, what helped me, but this is not the forum for that. Al-Anon sticks to "we speak al-anon here", and I respect the group for that. So I didn't know HOW to share anything anymore on here. My whole life is now about my relationship with God and how my life is changing because of that, how it can change anyone who lets it, what our real hope for the future is, and so on. And that is the message I want to go out and share with everyone - God's message, not the temporary fix of Al-Anon's message. Yes, Al-Anon and the 12 steps DOES help when you apply them - it helped me - but I want to share more with others... about "when death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry be anymore..." and the "meek shall inherit the earth... and find exquisite delight in the abundance of peace." So you see, I don't know HOW to share without sharing what is working for me, and what works for me is all about Jehovah and his message for us in the Bible.
So I visit here occasionally and every now and then post a little something. Those who care to know how to get in touch with me. I do especially miss some of you, but I need to be where I am now and I know you understand. Love to you all.
Susan
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Let your light shine in the darkness. "I can't just bring my mind to meetings...I must also bring my heart."
Im still here but not what i would consider an old timer, learned alot here and continue to almost every day im lurking...still plodding along, good days, sad days, great days, still cant believe it happened days...i watch, listen and learn from all the fantastic wisdom which keep me focussed on keeping my head above water and not letting everything take me under....Lillyx
been thru quite a bit of stuff the last year or so -
had to take some time to heal - didn't really have the ability to share much e, s, or hope.
BUT as with recovery and life - This Too Shall Pass and here I am back to try to help others on their path thru recovery just as others have helped me!
HUGS, Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
It is nigh on 26 years since my first f2f meeting of Alanon so that would put me in the OLD category me thinks
I went to my first Alanon meeting in 1967. But I didn't really want to be there... just that my mom didn't always have a babysitter for us kids, 9 and 6 at the time. I do remember on some occasions trying to listen to what was being said in the meeting, but I didn't really get it. I didn't really start coming to meetings for myself until 30+ years later. Mom probably hasn't been since sometime in the 70s, but at times I think she could use it.
I do wonder where some have gone? Or is that senility creeping in? 
