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Reading the passage this morning in Courage to Change for Aug 4th, I am reminded that through my self care, I am slowly finding my self worth. Part of my self care has been my dedication to touch base with my program daily! I made this dedication only a few months back and already I see a huge change within myself. Amongst chaos I am choosing self care, and finding peace.
Part of the passage says "neither my popularity nor my ability to please those I live and work with are legitimate measures of my worth as an individual." So many of you have helped me see things in a more balanced way of thought. This part of the passage also brings me back to reality. As a girl, I was always looking for someone to be happy with what I was doing... or really just have a reaction. My mom thought it was really important to always have a reaction for her children. Somehow I learned that the reactions people had would tell me whether I was a good or bad person. Somewhere along the line I never really found my self worth. It was completely wrapped up in all the people around me. What a mess!
Well, in the few short months I have been working on myself, I have found a more stable self worth. A self worth totally dependent on my own personal accomplishments. My sponsor & others in the program have helped me keep a balanced outlook and focus the energy on myself.
Just wanted to share because this passage really means a lot to me. I have been getting gentle reminders lately that I have made some real progress to finding myself and remembering who I am and what I like. Hopefully it touches one of you too!
That was a fantastic read for me this morning, too.
I like to be reminded that what other people think of me is none of my business... and in the long and short of it has absolutely NO impact on who I AM.
Fantastic stuff here, I think we can all relate to waiting for a reaction after we do something or say something. Whether you might make a witty remark about something or carry out a task for somebody, you're waiting for something - a laugh, gratitude, anything to show the end result of your actions. Doing that can become painful, as not all people are the same and while they may appreciate what you do or like what you have to say, they don't always show it - and probably think you already know you have contributed in some way.
I have done alot of self searching and have known for a long time that I do many things in life that contribute to the lives of my loved ones, the people I work with, and now and then people on the street. I think it's very important for all of us to recognise all of our simple achievements, gestures and actions and be proud of them. The mindset we live in makes us focus on reactions and outcomes, rather than staying true to our own beliefs and the way we do things, and knowing they are true.
