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After yet another drama session last night, complete with verbal abuse in front of my child, I finally stood up and said "Regardless of what you might think, I AM a human being and do not deserve to be spoken to that way." No yelling, no crying, just simple and matter of fact.
This pretty much went in one ear and out the other and I had to repeat the basic message a couple more times, but just the simple act of verbalizing it to my AH really reinforced it for me.
So this morning, I signed the paperwork, wrote the check and put my first round of divorce paperwork in the mail.
I'm still scared and dreading the inevitable confrontation, but it can't be worse than continuing to live with it for the foreseeable future.
So wish me luck and keep me in your thoughts and prayers.
Good luck & prayers said ~ you deserve to stand strong and take back ur life, woo hoo way to go! We willl be here for you along the way. Congradulations!!
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Sounds all good to me, minus the verbal abuse though. Good for you for making the first move and not waiting to see what happens next. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
ONE day at a time, it will all work out! I would say it honestly does not matter what the A though of what you said. I am so happy you said it for you!
Great progress! We are here for you every step of the way.
Even for me living in the sunroom at the end of my barn was better than living in a house with the evilness addiction brings.
It will be ok, as almost anything will be better! love,debilyn
Thinking of you Blender Girl. You've done a lot of footwork and I'm so impressed with your strength and courage to change what you can. I'll send up a prayer to HP that you and your children will be safe and happy.
Well, I am at the other end of the divorce papers. I know that you need to do what you have to do. I need to to make the same stand about verbal abuse. My AHsober threatens me with divorce all the time. Refuses to talk to me. I need to to say stop already with the threats and the emotional terrorism.
