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I just wanted to say that I dont have time for alanon meetings. I come here because this is all I have time for. I have a very busy life and a very busy job. If I were house bound and unable to get out it would be accepted but because I just say I am too busy for meetings, one or two people seem to think they can persuade me to going by telling me what i am missing out on.
Can I please be left to make whatever choices are right for ME. I have had some good advice on here so I like it and feel it is of benefit.
Meetings, steps, sponsors is how this program has worked for decades. Luckily now we do have the web and it has allowed all of our lives to be different. People are merely sharing what was shared with them and what works. You work it any way u see fit, any way it works for you, understand they are only sharing what has worked for them.
Take what u like and leave the rest. I'm glad ur getting some benefit here.
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I don't go to meetings anymore, I used to and it was helpful because I met people who were supportive and had no support system in my life at all - I was completely alone with 3 children. I have felt pushed to go to meetings on here many times but you can only do what you can do and not everyone is in the same situation. I'm working 3 jobs right now and am a single mom with 3 kids so going to meetings is not on the top of my priority list. I like coming here because I get support and I get logical common sense answers to a lot of my thoughts and feelings and sometimes I hear things I don't want to hear like last week when I was told that I was putting my own pleasure above the mental health of my children. Bad me. I should hole up in a closet and be a born again virgin until they're all 18 and I'm old and shriveled and don't really care about sex and love anymore. I take what I like, I leave the rest. There is a grain of truth in everything here some I relate to more than others. This board has saved my life and given me support when I had nothing. I can honestly say that in the past 3 years since coming here my life has changed in every way possible and a lot of that is because of the support and wise words for living that I get from my friends here. Try to just ignore the pushy ones who think they know what is best for you and really soak up the stuff you feel you really needed to hear even the stuff you didn't want to hear but needed to.
I was one of the people who PM'd you... encouraging people to go to meetings should not be considered an affront, and of course you have every right NOT to attend, if it doesn't work for you. The point being made, is our program is successful if/when we choose recoveries for ourselves, and F2F meetings typically make up a significant portion of each of our respective recoveries.... Boards like MIP are a tremendous resource, and help to our recoveries, but I would suggest that we are a good "supplement" to one's recovery, whereas meetings can be the "foundation".
Please don't be offended newbie - nobody is saying "go to meetings or else" - we are sharing our E,S&H with you, and most of the oldtimers here, myself included, know the value of meetings.
The very fact that you are here, and posting, puts you well above the thousands (millions?) of people who are being affected by alcoholism, but not reaching out as well...
Take care Tom
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Can someone please tell me what the difference between an "open" alanon meeting and a "Topic meeting" alanon meeting. Thanks...I want to go to both but I wanna make sure I don't walk into one that I'm not allowed to be in unless I was invited or something.
