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There must be something about the stars in the summer that makes me want to feel free and alive. Its been nearly a year since I found this forum. Its been months since I've come here for support.
My husband moved out on Saturday. I think I feel relieved, I'm not sure yet.
I've been staying with him because I was afraid to be alone. So far I am OK. Its weird because I was expecting to fall apart and be heartbroken. But I'm not.
My son is 21 months old now and he is my first priority right now.
No longer will I make it my problem to deal with what I've been feeling like is this huge weight. A 275 lb man who won't take care of himself or his family.
Its easier to walk, to move and take care of day to day things now that I'm not dragging 275 pounds around with me.
I would like to draft my own separation agreement. I know I will need a lawyer to make everything official, but for now I would like to take care of it myself. If anyone has any experience they could share, I would appreciate it.
I have been alone for over 4 years. Not my choice. It is doable. Get help from friends, family, and strangers. Go to meetings for guidance. Take care of yourself and your child. We are sronger then we think.
Hello Lily , am sorry u had to come to this conclusion but from your post i think your gonna be okay , obviously u have reached for now the point of no return . and you are done . Keep the focus on your needs and that of your baby , get to meetings if u can , u need support from people who understand . and will walk with you thru the bad days . I can't help u with drafting your own separation agreement but am sure someone here can . good luck Louise
In Oregon, you get the forms at the court H. for five bucks. Fill them out, check what you want, then take them back, then the judge signs them. Here I think it was three hundred. yikes.
In my experience when I have a loss, it hits me when it has been longer than I ever did not see the person that it hits.
My mother I saw every week or every two weeks, longest was maybe four. I totally lost it and my guts fell out about two weeks.
My A it was a nice rest for a week maybe then I start to remember the good stuff. ug.
My experience with seperation and divorce has been, yes, initially there is a relief you feel, when you realize the huge burden has been lifted. Then as time goes on there is a feeling of wanting to bargin some way with the spouse to make it work... a type of denial that this is actually happening. Then there is anger that sets in at the injustice of it all and a depression follows. The good news is eventually you get back to the place where you are now... "There must be something about the stars in the summer that makes me want to feel free and alive." This is called acceptance.
There are 5 stages of grief we all go through in a divorce: 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Bargaining 4. Depression 5. Acceptance
They may not always come in this order, or you may feel several at once. Don't be afraid, it is a natural process, you WILL make it through to Acceptance.
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
