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Today for some reason, it hit me that "Yep it really is Working", I mean, when i got here.. and that was 7 short months ago, every time that someone would say words "STRONGLY" or have a view that I never in this world would have thought of, but 1st Took Offence, feeling Pointed at, and stretched to wide, to much information :) "
I guess growing up an ACOA above many other things, the words that others said to me was ALWAYS, "At Me, About Me, Against Me" in MY mind. It was like I was just waiting for someone to kick me, so that when they did, I could then say... "Told ya So!"
I get on this board probably More times then Not.lol.. I read all the words, One at a Time, that is why it takes me a while to catch up on everyone when I am away from here...lol... But in doing so, I have some how learned to program my thoughts tords the end where they put (Me included)... "Take what you like... & LEAVE the Rest", which has since explained to me, that I only have to TAKE what I feel is right for me, and that alone has truly changed my way of thinking in my life...
I have a Moody Husband, I love him to death.. But he use to drive me UP a Wall when he would "switch channels"..(And not on the TV)..lol.. We would be talkin about something Wonderful, and a thought pops into his head and he is mumbling to his self, ticked off, not violent, just Grouchy.. Yeah.. Good Times ...lol...
But Now I "Take what I want, & LEAVE the rest", When he is at that place, I kindly give him a kiss on the forehead and leave the room :) and in doin so, his moods have changed.. At least in our relationship :P... I don't feel all bogged down now try'n to keep him happy, I don't wear his stress, on top of my own and for sure Above my own for that matter... I can do about anything now, and not have to feel like If I don't do it Exactly the way "THEY/HE" want it then it just can't be...
That/This... Is an AWESOME Feeling.. So in 7 Short Months, Thanks to All you Wonderful "Al-anon'rs/ACOA" I am slowly startin to enjoy... Just being me :)
Thanks for you lovely share I get so bogged down by the moods and emtions around me. Living with a newly sober ABF and three teenagers. I have started controlling my reaction and as you say their reactions are slowly changing as you say it works if you work it
and that was 7 short months ago, every time that someone would say words "STRONGLY" or have a view that I never in this world would have thought of, but 1st Took Offence, feeling Pointed at, and stretched to wide, to much information :) " 
I love him to death.
Yeah.. Good Times ...lol...
