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Does anyone else feel wierd (or have felt wierd) making phone calls to other members in the beginning? Last Monday I had 2 separate members tell me to give them a call and I haven't done it yet. I don't know what the big deal is. My Dad calls it the 1,000-pound phone syndrom - LOL! It's one thing to speak at the meeting, but to actual talk one-to-one just seems so strange to me. Am I the only one who feels (or has felt) this way? Any suggestions on how to get over this (besides the obvious of just picking up the phone and making the call - LOL)?
N8Smom, As a new member here and the fact that i have not had a f2f as of yet. I really wish someone would call and talk to me. Especially since i hate speaking in front of a crowd unless i have at least one person there i know i most likely will just sit there the first few nights. We all procrastinate with one thing or another it takes me two weeks to mail a letter or bill do it on line easier i know. so please try to pick up the phone for us newbies ok.
I have a long list with phone numbers of alanon members from my f2f meeting and I have never called any of them except for one time when I wasn't sure about a certain meeting location where I had never been to before. If you guys would like to talk with me on the phone let me know.
I know I haven't posted here much lately but I always read the posts. I have a good alanon friend I've met on here that I talk to on the phone sometimes. We've become friends and I'm thankful I've made that first call. The first call is always wierd when you don't know someone.
Hi, I felt like this for a long time I did not want to bother people or disturbe them at home. I dont know now how I worked my programme without using the phone. I have identified people at my F2f who live by this programme who I want to be like. When I am in pain, confused or not sure what is wrong I pick up my phone, all I know is they are always pleased to hear from me if they are busy they say so and I ring back or ring someone else. When I get off the phone my problem has shrunk from a mountain to a molehill. I am that sick that left to my own will I get into stinkin thinkin I need lots of contact with old timers people who live and breath this programme. Today I posted on here was feeling very down then I rang my sponsor and guess what my problems had answers.
If it wasn't for a fellow member calling me just to check in and see how i was doing , i probably wouldn't have made it back to my meetings . She never gave up on me and i'm so thankful . I have made a call before also , it's not easy and yes it's a little scary but it doesn't take long before the conversation is flowing . I always felt better afterwards .
They are offering you a ear if your having a bad day and need to talk ,letting you know that your not alone anymore , unless of course u want to be . obviously they have connected with what u were sharring . One of these ladies could be a potential sponsor and guide thru this program . Take advantage of the oportunity to grow , when your head feels like its going to explode phone one of them instead . Hugs Louise My sponsor always said phone me before u pull the trigger , after I can't help you. * funny lady *
I often tell people in my meetings that when they call me they are doing me a huge favor and honor.
The favor is that if I am going through some things of my own, the time I spend listening to them takes me away from what I have been obscessing over.
The honor is that I know that someone respects and trusts me.
When I made my first call to someone I was hurting so bad I just picked up the list and started calling until someone answered and had time to just listen. I talked for 45 minutes and that poor woman probably didn't say three words. However, when I got to the end and couldn't find anything else that needed to be said I realized that I had answered my own question.
When someone calls us all we have to do is listen. By their sharing with us they are letting go of part of their problem a tiny piece at a time. I sometimes ask them to meet me somewhere for coffee so they have a face to talk to and a hug waiting when it's all over.
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